Hi,
I cheated on my husband and I told him, and we are now separated. Neither of us have filed yet, but we both are seeing other people. I did try to reconcile with him for a few months, and he tried as well, but unfortunately we were unable to do so. I can respect that seeing as I messed up horribly.
Well, after not being able to reconcile with my husband, I eventually started seeing the other man which I had cheated on my husband with. Including the time I was cheating on my husband and the time I've been in a legitimate relationship with the OM, it's been almost 15 months. Well, on the 1st of this month, the OM decided to tell his wife about us. Now they have been separated since November 2010, so he figured it should have been fine (their divorce will finally be finalized on November 14, 2012). Well, it wasn't. She flipped out on him and vandalized his car and motorcycle and also broke into his apartment and woke him up by choking him. The next morning this woman approached me at work and tried to fight me while I was on the clock, for "sleeping with her husband" regardless of the fact that they were about to be divorced. I got overly stressed out and broke up with him over this, because they have a child together who is about to be 2 years old. Well, we have since gotten back together, and last night she was trying to call him and his phone was on silence so she called my number instead, and I had him answer. She blew up and got mad because she figured out we had gotten back together. She then said she was going to switch their custody agreement from Joint custody to sole custody and she wouldn't let him see his child.
So, basically I feel bad even though the OM told me that this would have happened no matter who he was dating or how long it had been. And I despise this woman since she came into my work place. I forgot to add, she also went and harassed my husband that same day right after she harassed me, which brought back all of his old feelings of pain, which in turned p*ssed me off more. However, me and the OM relationship has gotten pretty serious lately and we've finally came out to the public and are in a real, legitimate relationship. It's not the best of ways to be in a relationship, but it is what it is. I've always loved his son to death, he is an amazing little boy and we've spent so much time together, and I know his son loves me. I want to do what is best for this child and as much as I dislike his mother, I think it is in his best interest that her and I get along. However, she hates me and wants to fight me because she feels I broke up her marriage, even though they were separated long before I even met him. And like I said previously, she is trying to take away the OM's ability to see his son frequently to "punish him" (her own words).
Basically, is there any hope for her and I to get along? I am willing to, but I doubt she is. And if not, how are we supposed to all help raise this child? I would never make negative comments about his mother in front of him, but I've heard a bunch of horror stories about the mother talking negatively about the step-mom. Should I leave her alone for awhile or try to straighten this out as soon as possible? After she tried to fight me at my job, I bought pepper spray to protect myself from her (meant just for my workplace but I've gotten into the habit of carrying it anywhere she could show up). What if she tries to fight me and I have to pepper spray her in self-defense? She is a very hostile lady. Thank you for reading this, and I appreciate any advice I can get.
I cheated on my husband and I told him, and we are now separated. Neither of us have filed yet, but we both are seeing other people. I did try to reconcile with him for a few months, and he tried as well, but unfortunately we were unable to do so. I can respect that seeing as I messed up horribly.
Well, after not being able to reconcile with my husband, I eventually started seeing the other man which I had cheated on my husband with. Including the time I was cheating on my husband and the time I've been in a legitimate relationship with the OM, it's been almost 15 months. Well, on the 1st of this month, the OM decided to tell his wife about us. Now they have been separated since November 2010, so he figured it should have been fine (their divorce will finally be finalized on November 14, 2012). Well, it wasn't. She flipped out on him and vandalized his car and motorcycle and also broke into his apartment and woke him up by choking him. The next morning this woman approached me at work and tried to fight me while I was on the clock, for "sleeping with her husband" regardless of the fact that they were about to be divorced. I got overly stressed out and broke up with him over this, because they have a child together who is about to be 2 years old. Well, we have since gotten back together, and last night she was trying to call him and his phone was on silence so she called my number instead, and I had him answer. She blew up and got mad because she figured out we had gotten back together. She then said she was going to switch their custody agreement from Joint custody to sole custody and she wouldn't let him see his child.
So, basically I feel bad even though the OM told me that this would have happened no matter who he was dating or how long it had been. And I despise this woman since she came into my work place. I forgot to add, she also went and harassed my husband that same day right after she harassed me, which brought back all of his old feelings of pain, which in turned p*ssed me off more. However, me and the OM relationship has gotten pretty serious lately and we've finally came out to the public and are in a real, legitimate relationship. It's not the best of ways to be in a relationship, but it is what it is. I've always loved his son to death, he is an amazing little boy and we've spent so much time together, and I know his son loves me. I want to do what is best for this child and as much as I dislike his mother, I think it is in his best interest that her and I get along. However, she hates me and wants to fight me because she feels I broke up her marriage, even though they were separated long before I even met him. And like I said previously, she is trying to take away the OM's ability to see his son frequently to "punish him" (her own words).
Basically, is there any hope for her and I to get along? I am willing to, but I doubt she is. And if not, how are we supposed to all help raise this child? I would never make negative comments about his mother in front of him, but I've heard a bunch of horror stories about the mother talking negatively about the step-mom. Should I leave her alone for awhile or try to straighten this out as soon as possible? After she tried to fight me at my job, I bought pepper spray to protect myself from her (meant just for my workplace but I've gotten into the habit of carrying it anywhere she could show up). What if she tries to fight me and I have to pepper spray her in self-defense? She is a very hostile lady. Thank you for reading this, and I appreciate any advice I can get.