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Don't know why, but that song phrase has been ringing in my head all night like the most obnoxious earworm ever. It's even more annoying than that time I had She Blinded Me with Science in my head for three solid days during finals (science major, here). It's probably so bad this time because I actually do feel like I've been kicked in the head.
After a rocky 2 years of working at R, my husband finally admitted last night that he had not only been in love with the OW he had the 3 year EA with, but he had also - concurrently - been sexting with a woman at work and had a "one night stand" (that he kept in touch with for several months afterward) with a woman he picked up in a bar while he was on an out of town trip related to his main hobby. He'd also "flirted a little bit" with two other women. Several of his friends have known all the details this whole time.
He told me - when I came back after vomitting - that he actually felt like a weight had been lifted off of his chest now that he'd been honest.
But me? I've been kicked in the head.
I've been dragging this man uphill toward R for TWO FREAKIN' YEARS trying to salvage our marriage after what I thought was one EA, and now I find out that it was all a great big lie. He can't understand why I think the news that there were actually 3 OW - that he's confessed to - has set us back to day one on R. There was even some minor harping about how we weren't communicating at the time, he felt I didn't care about him or our marriage, and that he's changed so much since then. He had the nerve to say "this is why I don't tell you things, you don't handle the truth well." How well did he expect me to take it? Seriously? He's looked me in the eyes every single day for over two years, not to mention all the time while the EA was ongoing, and lied to me without flinching. Every. Single. Day. And I'm the one causing problems because I'm not handling it like he thinks I ought to?
wtf?
So, here I sit at work, going about my day, after having D-Day 3 last night. I'm just sort of numb. Last night I was sick, upset, gravely hurt. I even told him that I really just hated him right then. But today I'm just numb. Oh, and bitter.
I knew he was clueless. I knew he was foggy for a really long time. I knew he was self-centered. But 2 more OW with additional flirtations? And he could finally tell me because of "how far we've come in improving our marriage" and I "shouldn't let this mess up all the progress we've made."
W.T.F?!?!
After a rocky 2 years of working at R, my husband finally admitted last night that he had not only been in love with the OW he had the 3 year EA with, but he had also - concurrently - been sexting with a woman at work and had a "one night stand" (that he kept in touch with for several months afterward) with a woman he picked up in a bar while he was on an out of town trip related to his main hobby. He'd also "flirted a little bit" with two other women. Several of his friends have known all the details this whole time.
He told me - when I came back after vomitting - that he actually felt like a weight had been lifted off of his chest now that he'd been honest.
But me? I've been kicked in the head.
I've been dragging this man uphill toward R for TWO FREAKIN' YEARS trying to salvage our marriage after what I thought was one EA, and now I find out that it was all a great big lie. He can't understand why I think the news that there were actually 3 OW - that he's confessed to - has set us back to day one on R. There was even some minor harping about how we weren't communicating at the time, he felt I didn't care about him or our marriage, and that he's changed so much since then. He had the nerve to say "this is why I don't tell you things, you don't handle the truth well." How well did he expect me to take it? Seriously? He's looked me in the eyes every single day for over two years, not to mention all the time while the EA was ongoing, and lied to me without flinching. Every. Single. Day. And I'm the one causing problems because I'm not handling it like he thinks I ought to?
wtf?
So, here I sit at work, going about my day, after having D-Day 3 last night. I'm just sort of numb. Last night I was sick, upset, gravely hurt. I even told him that I really just hated him right then. But today I'm just numb. Oh, and bitter.
I knew he was clueless. I knew he was foggy for a really long time. I knew he was self-centered. But 2 more OW with additional flirtations? And he could finally tell me because of "how far we've come in improving our marriage" and I "shouldn't let this mess up all the progress we've made."
W.T.F?!?!