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Am I the only woman that doesn't mind if her husband watches a lot of porn and smokes week regularly?:scratchhead:


Insane! some of you might say, but I was discussing this with a coworker and she said she would break up with her boyfriend if she caught him watching porn. WHAT!!!

I actually LOVE it when my S/O watches porn. He does it about twice a day. Also, even though I dont smoke, I really DO NOT mind that he smokes every day.

Why do some people consider this a problem? or am I crazy?
 

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Do you both have jobs? Have kids? Or is this what the day pretty much consist of?
 

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Why do some people consider this a problem? or am I crazy?
Because different strokes for different folks. Some people don't mind if their spouse cats around either as long as they know about it....what one might do or like doesn't mean someone else will.
 

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I dont know why people consider porn to be cheating. That's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen in relationships.

To me it's like saying "if I ever catch you watching that Lord of the Rings movie, you're outta here man"
 

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Am I the only woman that doesn't mind if her husband watches a lot of porn and smokes week regularly?:scratchhead:
Nope, my gf is fine with this too. I don't do any illegal drugs, but I'll drink a couple beers at 10am on a saturday while writing in my journal and it doesn't bother her. Half of the other women (or men) out there would totally flip out because it's 10am and how dare you enjoy beer and blah blah blah.


I actually LOVE it when my S/O watches porn. He does it about twice a day. Also, even though I dont smoke, I really DO NOT mind that he smokes every day.
I said this in another thread, and I wasn't joking. People care because of the money. Marijuana is expensive and it creates a lot of other risks like losing your job, being arrested, etc. We can agree that marijuana laws are totally stupid, but that doesn't automatically make it a good idea to break the law. I think most speed limits are stupid, but I still drive the speed limit so I don't get in trouble.
 

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Porn is boring, unless it's a porn movie, then it's fking hilarious! (Maybe due to the combination of horrific acting and cheesy lines)

Grass is good though from time to time, my wife and I manage a few discreet puffs when watching movies together.
 

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I think there are many valid reasons why people men and women alike wouldn't want their partner watching porn or smoking weed.

My reasons for not wanting porn in our relationship are as follows:
Porn sex is unrealistic and creates unrealistic sexual expectations.
Porn usually involves very young women, unrealistic bodies (plastic surgery etc) and uses girls who are often from low socio ecenomic areas, usually poorly educated with few choices available to them, their is lots of sexual abuse in the potn industry, most of the girls have substance abuse problems, many of them started in the sex industry underage, most have suffered sexual abuse, the porn industry mostly lines the pockets of rich men, statistically speaking the women are used up and spat out deemed old hat after a few movies and a few thousand $, whereas the men in the industry make much more. Moreover many sex slaves end up in the industry so you never know if you are watching a woman who is being forced or greatly coerced etc.
It's just unethical, treats women as cum receptacles.

Porn injects third and 4th and 5th and so on parties into sexual relationships, these are real people and it's basically prostitution filmed. I beleive sex is best when two people focus on each other.

The more porn men watch the more likely it is that that will feel unsatisfied with their sex lives.

Increasingly more often some men can't get off when with a real woman, as porn changes our brains and the neural pathways and the way we receive excitement and pleasure, often making real sex difficult and dissatisfying.

Human beings release oxytocin when they have something nice done for them and a lot of oxytocin when they have sex and orgasm. It's what keeps coupled in love and excited and feeling good about each other. When they orgasm to other people, they reduce their human pair bonding, which distances them from their spouse.

I could go on and on really but I'll dro there.

As for the pot, I think it's easy to sere why having a pot head for a husband or wife is not appealing, even though I have nothing against the occasional
Joint myself.
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I dont know why people consider porn to be cheating. That's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen in relationships.

To me it's like saying "if I ever catch you watching that Lord of the Rings movie, you're outta here man"
It's not that at all...but I know in my case, I was being denied, ignored, and cast aside for porn. Not cheating, but also not something I was willing to put up with either.

The problems porn causes run much deeper, sometimes, than just a jealous wife.
 

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Why do some people consider this a problem?
Some people do some don't. Peoples reasons vary. For me it would be a problem. I'm not one to sit around watching porn and smoking weed, I have better things to do with my time. Plus I would want better for myself. But if it works for you and your partner more power ta ya!
 

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I dont know why people consider porn to be cheating. That's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen in relationships.

To me it's like saying "if I ever catch you watching that Lord of the Rings movie, you're outta here man"
Omg, me too!!! :rofl:

I mean, don't ladies know the advantages of men watching porn? um, less sexual time for me (which means that when Im home tired from a looooong day, instead of him going to another woman, he does it himself :) ).... new sexual positions...etc lol
 

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People care because of the money. Marijuana is expensive and it creates a lot of other risks like losing your job, being arrested, etc. We can agree that marijuana laws are totally stupid, but that doesn't automatically make it a good idea to break the law.
U are right, but when he knows he doesn't have the money for it, he doesn't do it, but he makes enough to do it way more than once a day, but he chooses once a day, so money is not the issue.
 

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Porn sex is unrealistic and creates unrealistic sexual expectations.
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Ok Little Deer, I get your point, but then what you are saying is that you don't watch movies either. :scratchhead: I'm assuming because movies are also unrealistic and then it will make us hate real life because our expectations are set to be those of the movie that we just watched.
 

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i'm not really into porn but it doesn't bother me unless it's kept secret.

i love weed and will smoke before I'll drink. the key is moderation. don't waste a life sitting around ripping tubes and beating off to porn.

limits:)
 

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Ok Little Deer, I get your point, but then what you are saying is that you don't watch movies either. :scratchhead: I'm assuming because movies are also unrealistic and then it will make us hate real life because our expectations are set to be those of the movie that we just watched.
Movies are a little different because most of them are about things nobody does. You'll never find yourself thinking that you're Rambo and you can totally take on an entire police department by yourself. Porn is (mostly) about sex, and sex is something people do. Warping your view of sex could have real life consequences.

Disagreeing with deer, you can tell right away when the actors are having fun and when they're not. Porn stars are horrible actors, so it's painfully transparent when they're not having fun. If your husband honestly can't tell that the porn star is in pain or not having fun, then he might be autistic. Noticing that the porn star is in pain but he wants to do that to you anyway means he's an *******.
 

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Omg, me too!!! :rofl:

I mean, don't ladies know the advantages of men watching porn? um, less sexual time for me (which means that when Im home tired from a looooong day, instead of him going to another woman, he does it himself :) ).... new sexual positions...etc lol
Ahhh, but this is assuming the woman doesn't WANT sex at those times. Personally, I'm up for sex anytime he is....even more. And we don't view porn. We have no need, no desire to do so. And we can be adventurous, try new positions, etc...all without the aid of porn. Our imaginations work just fine without the aid of such things. In our marriage, there are no advantages to watching porn... but, that's my marriage. If it works for you, more power to you. But just because it works for you doesn't mean our position on it will change.
 
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