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My spouse and I suffer from endless communication, or lack of communication, issues.
1. I generally learn about big things involving him from third party persons chatting with him in my presence.
This past summer, I went to a party for one of his coworkers and people were talking about the new space a family member had purchased for him (pay back monthly) to expand his business. Reasoning/excuses; He can't tell me everything about his day, it is his business and not something I should or need to know, I might rain on his parade,
2. I can flat out ask him about a concern or issue and he will flat out tell me something while actually doing something else or lying.
A. He told me a coworkers husband had bought a new car without telling her. The he tells me someone has a new car for sale. Ding! Are you buying a new car and not telling me?! No, we can't afford that right now. And then goes calling insurance agent for pricing adding a new car as well as applying for the loan though the bank.
(How do I know? Because we were struggling to pay the current auto insurance bill and found out via the secretary that while I was calling to iron things out, he was calling to inquire abt new car and she told me - she must have thought we were nuts)
B. I expressed endless concerns about IRS taxes for his business for 4 years, he continually assured me (and my mom) that is was all good, he claimed losses. It wasn't ok. I just found out.
He says he doesn't lie, because he says nothing to me at all, or is ambiguous. Usually it's a play on words, last night it was that he was not buying a car "today," this is because it was Sunday at 9pm, so literally ... You get where that's going.
Opinions please and thanks in advance. I will be reading others posts and responding.
1. I generally learn about big things involving him from third party persons chatting with him in my presence.
This past summer, I went to a party for one of his coworkers and people were talking about the new space a family member had purchased for him (pay back monthly) to expand his business. Reasoning/excuses; He can't tell me everything about his day, it is his business and not something I should or need to know, I might rain on his parade,
2. I can flat out ask him about a concern or issue and he will flat out tell me something while actually doing something else or lying.
A. He told me a coworkers husband had bought a new car without telling her. The he tells me someone has a new car for sale. Ding! Are you buying a new car and not telling me?! No, we can't afford that right now. And then goes calling insurance agent for pricing adding a new car as well as applying for the loan though the bank.
(How do I know? Because we were struggling to pay the current auto insurance bill and found out via the secretary that while I was calling to iron things out, he was calling to inquire abt new car and she told me - she must have thought we were nuts)
B. I expressed endless concerns about IRS taxes for his business for 4 years, he continually assured me (and my mom) that is was all good, he claimed losses. It wasn't ok. I just found out.
He says he doesn't lie, because he says nothing to me at all, or is ambiguous. Usually it's a play on words, last night it was that he was not buying a car "today," this is because it was Sunday at 9pm, so literally ... You get where that's going.
Opinions please and thanks in advance. I will be reading others posts and responding.