Equal footing? Ummm no.I’ve changed my mind. Given the new info, I suggest that you pretend to reluctantly agree to allow the status quo. Then accidentally have a pregnancy or two. It will put you on equal footing with the baby mama.
At that point, if he continues to date her, he should be seriously and correctly concerned that you will vindictively prevent him and his family from EVER seeing your child(ren) again. Show him that you are totally ready and willing to go nuclear.
God allowed his only begotten son to die in order to help his bride.
And your anger at his family is not displaced. It is fully justified.
She goes behind his back and manipulates an already tenous situation by bringing an innocent baby into this mess?No.
That would make her dishonest and lower than the baby momma.
No. You Never bring kids into a broken family, nor do you use them as leverage to save a marriage.