Hello there,
First of all...I feel you and I am sorry that you are going through this....if I can be so Frank please let me. First you need to stop being a doormat you are married and she committed infidelity and broke the vows she has made...I think what you need to do is make it perfectly clear to her that you will not be in an open marriage...and do not be scared to walk away...easier said than done I know..Im in the midst of it as well......but I think you need to make it perfectly clear to her...you or the OM....if she cant make a decision then you need to make it for her.....anyone in a marriage deserves the other person to love them and be intimate with them alone....not have an extra marital activity on the side. Again Sorry you are going through this...but just as long as the OM is around...there is no hope in fixing anything because her attention and affection is with the other man.
First of all...I feel you and I am sorry that you are going through this....if I can be so Frank please let me. First you need to stop being a doormat you are married and she committed infidelity and broke the vows she has made...I think what you need to do is make it perfectly clear to her that you will not be in an open marriage...and do not be scared to walk away...easier said than done I know..Im in the midst of it as well......but I think you need to make it perfectly clear to her...you or the OM....if she cant make a decision then you need to make it for her.....anyone in a marriage deserves the other person to love them and be intimate with them alone....not have an extra marital activity on the side. Again Sorry you are going through this...but just as long as the OM is around...there is no hope in fixing anything because her attention and affection is with the other man.