My wife and I separated recently, on the understanding that we would be trying to work things out, not see other people and go to counselling. However, I have discovered that she has been sleeping with another man. While I respect her right to be happy and to live the life she wants, I don't understand why she wouldn't have the decency to say simply that the marriage was over and then move on to the other relationship. I am sure that this has been covered before by many people, but I am just so sad. Was it unreasonable of me to expect her to honour what we agreed at the time of separation, or does anything go once you move out? I am sorry if this seems very naive.