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A while ago he moved 3000mi from his son & wife, said everything was fine but he left out of selfishness. While they cried for him not to leave, he states he was leading an ex-girlfriend on,telling her to move here w him then said just kidding -and at some point “she tried to kill herself in front of me bc I’m so terrible to everyone. But I totally loved her”

Now admits that he’s never getting divorced but will just do what he wants, but wants no commitment or relationship ever again (but staying married!). Says I’m a very close and special friend. Says his wife and him have zero relationship, but he still ?loves her and ?maybe she’ll come around bc he doesn’t want to be divorced…and he’ll post stuff on his social media account like they’re still happily married… but in meantime he’s talking about sex w me.

Almost every convo we have eventually turns to sex; he calls phone sex “safe sex.” Or asks me to do sexual favors but reminds me he doesn’t have sex often. (Will stone Cold tell me to do sexual favors for him, abruptly in middle of convo, never smiles or kisses me, doesn’t say anything sweet. Goes between this and telling me he feels guilty having sex out of marriage, but even then he’s always sexting me even if he’s not doing it….

Tells me to have zero expectations of him and he’s always going to be “Free” (but also married), yet shames me if I go out w another guy w I’m “not loyal”. Tells me he’s a sociopath and cares about no one except his son. Tried to make me think he’s into another woman and posted photo of her saying “so pretty” on a fake account where he knew I knew the username, but no one else in his real life does. So… I got sick of it and sent link to his wife. Then he immediately took it down, guess he has nothing real w that other woman either.
 

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A while ago he moved 3000mi from his son & wife, said everything was fine but he left out of selfishness. While they cried for him not to leave, he states he was leading an ex-girlfriend on,telling her to move here w him then said just kidding -and at some point “she tried to kill herself in front of me bc I’m so terrible to everyone. But I totally loved her”

Now admits that he’s never getting divorced but will just do what he wants, but wants no commitment or relationship ever again (but staying married!). Says I’m a very close and special friend. Says his wife and him have zero relationship, but he still ?loves her and ?maybe she’ll come around bc he doesn’t want to be divorced…and he’ll post stuff on his social media account like they’re still happily married… but in meantime he’s talking about sex w me.

Almost every convo we have eventually turns to sex; he calls phone sex “safe sex.” Or asks me to do sexual favors but reminds me he doesn’t have sex often. (Will stone Cold tell me to do sexual favors for him, abruptly in middle of convo, never smiles or kisses me, doesn’t say anything sweet. Goes between this and telling me he feels guilty having sex out of marriage, but even then he’s always sexting me even if he’s not doing it….

Tells me to have zero expectations of him and he’s always going to be “Free” (but also married), yet shames me if I go out w another guy w I’m “not loyal”. Tells me he’s a sociopath and cares about no one except his son. Tried to make me think he’s into another woman and posted photo of her saying “so pretty” on a fake account where he knew I knew the username, but no one else in his real life does. So… I got sick of it and sent link to his wife. Then he immediately took it down, guess he has nothing real w that other woman either.
He doesn't care about his son. But he probably is a sociopath. Why do you even need to ask?
 

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A while ago he moved 3000mi from his son & wife, said everything was fine but he left out of selfishness. While they cried for him not to leave, he states he was leading an ex-girlfriend on,telling her to move here w him then said just kidding -and at some point “she tried to kill herself in front of me bc I’m so terrible to everyone. But I totally loved her”

Now admits that he’s never getting divorced but will just do what he wants, but wants no commitment or relationship ever again (but staying married!). Says I’m a very close and special friend. Says his wife and him have zero relationship, but he still ?loves her and ?maybe she’ll come around bc he doesn’t want to be divorced…and he’ll post stuff on his social media account like they’re still happily married… but in meantime he’s talking about sex w me.

Almost every convo we have eventually turns to sex; he calls phone sex “safe sex.” Or asks me to do sexual favors but reminds me he doesn’t have sex often. (Will stone Cold tell me to do sexual favors for him, abruptly in middle of convo, never smiles or kisses me, doesn’t say anything sweet. Goes between this and telling me he feels guilty having sex out of marriage, but even then he’s always sexting me even if he’s not doing it….

Tells me to have zero expectations of him and he’s always going to be “Free” (but also married), yet shames me if I go out w another guy w I’m “not loyal”. Tells me he’s a sociopath and cares about no one except his son. Tried to make me think he’s into another woman and posted photo of her saying “so pretty” on a fake account where he knew I knew the username, but no one else in his real life does. So… I got sick of it and sent link to his wife. Then he immediately took it down, guess he has nothing real w that other woman either.
When people show you who they are, believe them.

Do yourself a huge favor and stay away from married men.

Are you married yourself?
 

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I feel like plenty of people are in open marriages or only together on paper… then again given how he freaked out when his wife saw 1 photo of us together and made me take it down, and hides any trace of me completely, that doesn’t seem to be their case
 

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She just said something about how her husband was also playing w me (what’s also?!) when I showed her the sexual garbage messages he sends. However he himself keeps saying he’s never getting divorced and hides everything from Public like wouldn’t even go to a party of mutual friend with me and on his social media just posts his wife and kid and references his family
 

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She just said something about how her husband was also playing w me (what’s also?!) when I showed her the sexual garbage messages he sends. However he himself keeps saying he’s never getting divorced and hides everything from Public like wouldn’t even go to a party of mutual friend with me and on his social media just posts his wife and kid and references his family
Why would you want to date this waste of space? First he's married and it's obvious even if he views he's in an open relationship he isn't happy about being with you. Other wise he wouldn't hide everything. Second wife probably knows but is being told he broke it off with your or something.

Really I don't get this at all. He's basically said he only wants you for a nobody can know **** buddy.

Well guess what you can get a **** buddy who is at least nice to you and probably better in bed.

Yes give up on him. Or more to the point give him the heave ho.
 

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She just said something about how her husband was also playing w me (what’s also?!) when I showed her the sexual garbage messages he sends. However he himself keeps saying he’s never getting divorced and hides everything from Public like wouldn’t even go to a party of mutual friend with me and on his social media just posts his wife and kid and references his family
WTF why are you even asking? You know the answer. He is garbage.
 

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OP, read the title of your thread. Is this a serious question? Why are you even bothering with a married man? Is your self-esteem in the toilet that you think all you deserve are crumbs when he feels like brushing them your way?
 

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OP, read the title of your thread. Is this a serious question? Why are you even bothering with a married man? Is your self-esteem in the toilet that you think all you deserve are crumbs when he feels like brushing them your way?
A married sociopath man!
 
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