It has been about about 2 1/2 months since my husband of over 20 years left me. I am not crying nearly as much as I did in the beginning and we hardly ever talk now, only about a schedule for our son or things related to him. At first I was begging him to talk to me all of the time and to come back, then I got angry about it, and now I am pretty ok with things. I really miss him at times, though. I did make the mistake of asking him one day how he could not miss "us" and he said he doesn't. He said that all of the fighting prior to him leaving was just too much and he could never go back to that. The fighting was a result of him giving me the "I love you but I'm not in love with you speech" and my trying to hold our marriage together. Why can he only see the negative and I see the positives of our marriage before this happened? It's like he totally forgot about all of the good times and only wants to focus on the more recent negatives. He also doesn't really want to accept his share of responsibility for the marriage ending. I just want him to miss me if nothing else.