Found this site the other day while researching my situation and decided to give it a try. I've been married for 10 years now, have two kids and love my wife and kids with all my heart. With that out of the way, my wife used to be sexual as ever - would initiate sex whenever possible, would wear lingerie and do all of things to please me. Even after our first child and for the first little bit after our second child she was like this. I just got out of the Navy after 13 years and was gone for over 2 years of our relationship/ Now, to add to this, she has been on anti-depressants since our second child, too.
Over the past few years, I have noticed that she has lost all interest in sex, will NEVER initiate sex and will reject my advances towards sex and it's absolutely frustrating! I've tried to buy her lingerie, and even brought her in before I bought things for her and she approved of them, even said they looked very sexy. It's been over a month since I received the last of the lingerie I bought her and she hasn't even tried it on yet. I've talked to her about it, well, expressed my feelings towards this, but she won't talk about it, it seems like. To top it off, I currently work the night shift and only get a chance to sleep with her during the weekends now, and every night of the weekend, she's "too tired" or there's some other excuse, or just flat-out gets mad at my attempts to initiate sex. After these rejections, it's to the point where I get mad and upset and don't talk to her for a day or two. I still have the same high sex drive as I've had since we first got together, and she's down to little or no sex drive now. It's to the point where the only times I get off is when I look at porn and take matters into my own hands. Am I in the wrong for being mad about this situation? Or being too selfish on the sex issues??
Just want to know if anyone else has had these experiences with anti-depressants of if it's something I should really be concerned over. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Over the past few years, I have noticed that she has lost all interest in sex, will NEVER initiate sex and will reject my advances towards sex and it's absolutely frustrating! I've tried to buy her lingerie, and even brought her in before I bought things for her and she approved of them, even said they looked very sexy. It's been over a month since I received the last of the lingerie I bought her and she hasn't even tried it on yet. I've talked to her about it, well, expressed my feelings towards this, but she won't talk about it, it seems like. To top it off, I currently work the night shift and only get a chance to sleep with her during the weekends now, and every night of the weekend, she's "too tired" or there's some other excuse, or just flat-out gets mad at my attempts to initiate sex. After these rejections, it's to the point where I get mad and upset and don't talk to her for a day or two. I still have the same high sex drive as I've had since we first got together, and she's down to little or no sex drive now. It's to the point where the only times I get off is when I look at porn and take matters into my own hands. Am I in the wrong for being mad about this situation? Or being too selfish on the sex issues??
Just want to know if anyone else has had these experiences with anti-depressants of if it's something I should really be concerned over. Any help would be greatly appreciated!