AJ,
First off, thank you for your service in the Navy! Now, onto the matter at hand, or shall I say in your hand!
You should know that you are not the only one in this situation. I have similar issues with my wife of 6 years. She is also on an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medicine. These medicines almost always have a negative impact on libido. My wife's libido went from high to non-existant when she started the meds.
It sounds like you need to have a very honest and open talk with your wife. Aside from the never initiating sex, it sounds like there may be some more underlying issues she is experiencing. It took me a while to get my thoughts together and "confront" my wife with my concerns, expectations, and needs. However, after we both laid out our thoughts and issues, we were able to come up with some compromises. She still doesn't initiate, except for once in a blue moon, but she no longer denies my attempts.
You are not in the wrong for feeling the way you do. If your wife truly cares about your relationship, she should be open to talk and compromise. She may even be able to try a different medication, if that is truly her only problem. They all have various side effects and affect people in different ways.
I still get upset and frustrated that my wife rarely initiates sex. It makes me feel like she isn't into me and doesn't desire me like she used to. We are both a lot more open about our concerns and are working to improve things. Hopefully you and your wife can do the same.
First off, thank you for your service in the Navy! Now, onto the matter at hand, or shall I say in your hand!
You should know that you are not the only one in this situation. I have similar issues with my wife of 6 years. She is also on an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medicine. These medicines almost always have a negative impact on libido. My wife's libido went from high to non-existant when she started the meds.
It sounds like you need to have a very honest and open talk with your wife. Aside from the never initiating sex, it sounds like there may be some more underlying issues she is experiencing. It took me a while to get my thoughts together and "confront" my wife with my concerns, expectations, and needs. However, after we both laid out our thoughts and issues, we were able to come up with some compromises. She still doesn't initiate, except for once in a blue moon, but she no longer denies my attempts.
You are not in the wrong for feeling the way you do. If your wife truly cares about your relationship, she should be open to talk and compromise. She may even be able to try a different medication, if that is truly her only problem. They all have various side effects and affect people in different ways.
I still get upset and frustrated that my wife rarely initiates sex. It makes me feel like she isn't into me and doesn't desire me like she used to. We are both a lot more open about our concerns and are working to improve things. Hopefully you and your wife can do the same.
