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New user obviously, I need some place to vent.
We're both 25, been married almost 3 years. Life is 'mostly' good.
I've got a well paying job, wife has an average-paying job, but she absolutely hates the people she works with. She's a very go-getter type personality. 4.0 all through college, she gets stuff done and her coworkers and boss are mediocrities at best.
She wanted to go to graduate school online to advance her career. She has anxiety issues, but we've found that the best way to counter her anxiety is for her to be busy with work/projects where she can apply her energy. If she sits at home too long without anything to do she starts to go insane. For this reason, I fully support her career and grad school.
Then something came up. Maybe you've heard about this article?
The war on men | Fox News
The gist of the article is that less men want to get married nowadays because a lot of women are more career oriented and don't want to 'be women' anymore.
I read it and was very curious as to what she thought, we both consider ourselves to be intellectual and value each other's opinions. Well she about blew it when she read this thing - got super pissed off - especially when I said that 'I think that there's some truth to the article' and that I could relate to how some guys could feel that way. We eventually got over it after arguing for a while, but then one of my siblings posted the article on facebook saying what a great article it was and so we argued about it again! She's super offended that I said I could relate to how some guys would get turned-off to the modern woman, because she is the modern woman. I should have just kept my mouth shut, but it's what I feel inside.
It's making me have such an inner conflict. I love my wife, but sometimes I catch myself wishing I had married someone who would have more interest in being a mom instead of having a career. We don't have kids yet, I want to start soon, she wants to wait. She hates cooking, I do almost all the cooking. She hates doing laundry, I do most of that too. She comes home from work and usually 'rants' about how bad her work is for a good half hour. I've told her quite often that if at any time she wants to just stay home and have/raise our kids, I am totally fine with that. I make enough money to support us, but she gets offended that I would even suggest that.
Am I so wrong in wishing that my wife was more wife and less career? I want someone that compliments me, not a copy of me.
Like I said, not any real problems, just confused about life. It's not a deal breaker or anything, I just find myself wishing I would have taken another path 3 years ago.
We're both 25, been married almost 3 years. Life is 'mostly' good.
I've got a well paying job, wife has an average-paying job, but she absolutely hates the people she works with. She's a very go-getter type personality. 4.0 all through college, she gets stuff done and her coworkers and boss are mediocrities at best.
She wanted to go to graduate school online to advance her career. She has anxiety issues, but we've found that the best way to counter her anxiety is for her to be busy with work/projects where she can apply her energy. If she sits at home too long without anything to do she starts to go insane. For this reason, I fully support her career and grad school.
Then something came up. Maybe you've heard about this article?
The war on men | Fox News
The gist of the article is that less men want to get married nowadays because a lot of women are more career oriented and don't want to 'be women' anymore.
I read it and was very curious as to what she thought, we both consider ourselves to be intellectual and value each other's opinions. Well she about blew it when she read this thing - got super pissed off - especially when I said that 'I think that there's some truth to the article' and that I could relate to how some guys could feel that way. We eventually got over it after arguing for a while, but then one of my siblings posted the article on facebook saying what a great article it was and so we argued about it again! She's super offended that I said I could relate to how some guys would get turned-off to the modern woman, because she is the modern woman. I should have just kept my mouth shut, but it's what I feel inside.
It's making me have such an inner conflict. I love my wife, but sometimes I catch myself wishing I had married someone who would have more interest in being a mom instead of having a career. We don't have kids yet, I want to start soon, she wants to wait. She hates cooking, I do almost all the cooking. She hates doing laundry, I do most of that too. She comes home from work and usually 'rants' about how bad her work is for a good half hour. I've told her quite often that if at any time she wants to just stay home and have/raise our kids, I am totally fine with that. I make enough money to support us, but she gets offended that I would even suggest that.
Am I so wrong in wishing that my wife was more wife and less career? I want someone that compliments me, not a copy of me.
Like I said, not any real problems, just confused about life. It's not a deal breaker or anything, I just find myself wishing I would have taken another path 3 years ago.