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She's gorgeous and insatiable getting off daily... often multiple times a day. Married 6 months and terrific sex life. So.... why does she continue to use vibrators and get off daily? When together I'm more than happy to satisfy her appetite for multiple O's whether it's Oral, using the vibrator or rocking her world until she's gasping for air and begging me to stop. ... So, I feel like she's not saving her passion for me when she's getting satisfied with her toy. She says it just makes her even more horny to have sex with me when I get home from work. She knows how I feel but insists "it's my body and I'll do what I want and stop monitoring my vibrator use.. it's none of your business". Am I out of line?
 

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Do you ever masturbate and/or use porn?

As long as you are satisfied sexually, I think she's right.

Your wife apparently has a very high sex drive. Does she have time in her day for anything else?
 

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She's gorgeous and insatiable getting off daily... often multiple times a day. Married 6 months and terrific sex life. So.... why does she continue to use vibrators and get off daily? When together I'm more than happy to satisfy her appetite for multiple O's whether it's Oral, using the vibrator or rocking her world until she's gasping for air and begging me to stop. ... So, I feel like she's not saving her passion for me when she's getting satisfied with her toy. She says it just makes her even more horny to have sex with me when I get home from work. She knows how I feel but insists "it's my body and I'll do what I want and stop monitoring my vibrator use.. it's none of your business". Am I out of line?
Borrow her vibrator for your own solo use.
 

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As long as you're not being deprived, you're out of line.

Same thing if you use porn to get off sometimes, but never turn down your wife.

Both can enhance - or cause problems if abused.
 

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She's gorgeous and insatiable getting off daily... often multiple times a day. Married 6 months and terrific sex life. So.... why does she continue to use vibrators and get off daily? When together I'm more than happy to satisfy her appetite for multiple O's whether it's Oral, using the vibrator or rocking her world until she's gasping for air and begging me to stop. ... So, I feel like she's not saving her passion for me when she's getting satisfied with her toy. She says it just makes her even more horny to have sex with me when I get home from work. She knows how I feel but insists "it's my body and I'll do what I want and stop monitoring my vibrator use.. it's none of your business". Am I out of line?
This is one reason why I don't even own one. Because at first it is ok to have, then it turns into jealousy over an inanimate object. I think you should be grateful she wants to have a go with it. You allow her to use it , even though it is just you two. I am sure at some point you though about her using it alone right?
She is just sexual. As long as it is her or both of you I don't see why...or maybe I am wrong...again. just some thoughts
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Does she have a job?

Is this for real?

In case it is, I get where you are coming from, to a point. It is just that we hear similar things from the otherside of the coin.

Past a point, she may be compensating for something, just like many guys are obsessed with porn and are trying to fill some void, no pun intended. Sometimes people get bored. Sometimes they use it to escape.

So what else does she do with her time? How do you know she does this? WTH?

I am not going to answer the poll. I would need more information. This may or may not be a problem.

Now if she got off everyday and did not have sex with you ... now that poll I could answer.
 

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Does she turn you down for sex?

Personally I don't use one because I find it desensitises me.

Do you madturbate? Does she have a higher drive then you?
 

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It would bother me too if I worked away from home and she was a stay at home and did this.

Six months in I figure she would only be wanting your toy for a while longer. But if you married her and she was always in to her toys its on you man. YOu married a sexually liberated woman. YOu can enjoy it or let it haunt you.
 

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Wow.. what terrific, thoughtful and insightful feedback... to the person who asked how I know, I monitored where and how the toy was placed in the drawer.. when I asked if she got off today she'd reply that she had and get mad that I knew and she was being monitored. Others; I bought the vibrator(s) for her to use solo during our long distance and long term relationship. I just thought her use of them would be as couple's toys not rolling solo as often as she does. Has she turned me down for sex? never. Has our sex life changed in the past 6 months? Of course. Second marriage for both, blending families with kids in HS/college, building a new home, moving to be together...etc She was every man's dream and completely focused on pleasing her man sexually... oral, positions, locations.. anything anywhere she was all in. Since moving in together it's her using the vibrator during the day and we usually having pretty great sex at night... but, her focus on pleasing / orally me has changed and the routine is that she cums 2-3 times by me servicing her orally then finishing in any number of positions.... her delivery of oral sex to me completely vanished.. for months.. thus my concern than her vibrator is replacing me. To those who asked about my use of porn to get off. We have Playboy's around and she's bi-curious/comfortable so she's totally ok with porn. Do I use it to get off ? no As an executive in healthcare I'm working 10-12 hr days and have little time to rub one out.. and honestly feel that if I did it would shortchange my wife's pleasure. If I rubbed one out in my only free time.. the shower before coming to bed, then didn't perform for her.. is that fair... should I care since I know she got off already while I was at work? :scratchhead:
 

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Wow.. what terrific, thoughtful and insightful feedback... to the person who asked how I know, I monitored where and how the toy was placed in the drawer.. when I asked if she got off today she'd reply that she had and get mad that I knew and she was being monitored. Others; I bought the vibrator(s) for her to use solo during our long distance and long term relationship. I just thought her use of them would be as couple's toys not rolling solo as often as she does. Has she turned me down for sex? never. Has our sex life changed in the past 6 months? Of course. Second marriage for both, blending families with kids in HS/college, building a new home, moving to be together...etc She was every man's dream and completely focused on pleasing her man sexually... oral, positions, locations.. anything anywhere she was all in. Since moving in together it's her using the vibrator during the day and we usually having pretty great sex at night... but, her focus on pleasing / orally me has changed and the routine is that she cums 2-3 times by me servicing her orally then finishing in any number of positions.... her delivery of oral sex to me completely vanished.. for months.. thus my concern than her vibrator is replacing me. To those who asked about my use of porn to get off. We have Playboy's around and she's bi-curious/comfortable so she's totally ok with porn. Do I use it to get off ? no As an executive in healthcare I'm working 10-12 hr days and have little time to rub one out.. and honestly feel that if I did it would shortchange my wife's pleasure. If I rubbed one out in my only free time.. the shower before coming to bed, then didn't perform for her.. is that fair... should I care since I know she got off already while I was at work? :scratchhead:
So the BJ's are gone for months now? Maybe she is being selfish. Finding all these ways to please herself when you are not there, on your long distance travels. She is has a high drive. Appreciate that. Just mention to her about the BJ's. Let her know you think she is being selfish. If you need to take care of yourself, do it. How could she get mad at you for that?
 

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Wow.. what terrific, thoughtful and insightful feedback... to the person who asked how I know, I monitored where and how the toy was placed in the drawer.. when I asked if she got off today she'd reply that she had and get mad that I knew and she was being monitored. Others; I bought the vibrator(s) for her to use solo during our long distance and long term relationship. I just thought her use of them would be as couple's toys not rolling solo as often as she does. Has she turned me down for sex? never. Has our sex life changed in the past 6 months? Of course. Second marriage for both, blending families with kids in HS/college, building a new home, moving to be together...etc She was every man's dream and completely focused on pleasing her man sexually... oral, positions, locations.. anything anywhere she was all in. Since moving in together it's her using the vibrator during the day and we usually having pretty great sex at night... but, her focus on pleasing / orally me has changed and the routine is that she cums 2-3 times by me servicing her orally then finishing in any number of positions.... her delivery of oral sex to me completely vanished.. for months.. thus my concern than her vibrator is replacing me. To those who asked about my use of porn to get off. We have Playboy's around and she's bi-curious/comfortable so she's totally ok with porn. Do I use it to get off ? no As an executive in healthcare I'm working 10-12 hr days and have little time to rub one out.. and honestly feel that if I did it would shortchange my wife's pleasure. If I rubbed one out in my only free time.. the shower before coming to bed, then didn't perform for her.. is that fair... should I care since I know she got off already while I was at work? :scratchhead:
I may be having truble picking it out here. So she doe snot work? There are "kids" in HS / College.

But it really matters what she does with her time.

Perhaps though if she did work, she may not just be all about sex. You may not like that.

Wedding cake can impact BJs. So are you supporting her children in some way? Was she supporting her self before? Long distance relationship. Why was that? You seem focused on her getting off without you. Hmmmm. I winder what she does with her day. Does she have nay friends?
 

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Just wondering because she sounds like my first wife whose motor was running 24/7. The woman just wasn't HD. She was obsessed with sex and it was a cure all.

What's going to happen if some stress comes in your marriage and you not in the mood and she's lying next to you in passing gear?

I guess what I'm asking is, what is your marriage like in the other rooms of the house? Can she withstand a dry spell you might experience down the road? A sex toy can only go so far.
 

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The way I see it, most guys aren't fantastic giving their ladies oral and to orgasm, so the ladies use a vib to make up the difference. If she is in the mood, he isn't home, use the vib and she's good. If he is home, he can give her oral while she uses the vib at the same time, win, win for her. If us guys can have orgasms easily and quickly, I don't see why it should be any different for the ladies.:smthumbup:
 

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The source of your issue is a lot clearer now. She has virtually stopped giving you BJ's.

You need to talk to her. Ask her why this has happened. Ask her how she would feel if you stopped doing oral on her. This might help her realize why bj's are important to you.
 

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The poll questions:

ok for her to use solo whenever she likes
best when shared as a couple
either together or solo is fine
solo is fine as as long as it doesn't harm the relationship


You're kidding, right? It's okay for her to do whatever she wants in that arena. You don't have the right to tell her how she gets her orgasms. If she wants to masturbate with a stuffed animal, it's her business. She's harming no one.

On the other hand, if it causes issues with your relationship and sex life with her is made worse, you can file for divorce after asking her to increase the frequency of sex with her, if her answer is no.

Vibrators will cause her to be less sensitive to human sexual stimulus. Depends on how frequently she uses them.

A lack of bjs? I don't think there is any expectation of the way she has to get you off. It's up to her. You can only request a higher frequency of bjs. They don't directly do anything for her orgasm.

Maybe you aren't getting her off on a regular basis. That's what I think. If she was having orgasms from sex with you on a regular basis, she'd likely be more willing to give you something that does nothing for her.

What changed in you, since you got married?
 
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I think it's fantastic that your wife is sexual and I feel you must encourage her to explore her sensual side.

Dont create a situation where she feels she cant explore her pleasures and its you thats stopping her.
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:iagree: This is good advice.

I wish my wife would shed her old religious inhibitions and explore her own pleasure more often. It happens once in a while. :rolleyes:
 
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