I have been married for three years. When my husband and I were dating he talked about all of the goals he had. I did my best to motivate him but it didn't work. He complains about his job but won't look for a new one. While I was training for my present position, he was unemployed for 4 months but didn't even put together a resume. I feel like he is so codependent, and I am sick of being his mother. He shuts down when I tried to talk to him about my concerns even though I approach the subject cautiously. He doesn't have sex with me and rarely shows affection. He says he wants kids, but I don't with him. He won't even let the dogs out in the morning. I know I would be raising them by myself, and I don't even think he knows what a checkbook/online bill pay is. If I don't pay the bill, it doesn't get paid. I really am starting to resent him and Sundays because I know I will have to spend time with him. Your advice is appreciated. Thanks!