My husband and I have only been married for a year and a half....but we've been together and living together over 8 years. We do not have any children just three young dogs. The first year we were together we had a regular sex life. He is extremely passionate about making money and working all the time. Well, in the beginning..anytime he gets stressed out (which seems to be 90% of the time) we do not have sex...his businesses/jobs have been up/down up/down for years now....and our sex life has gotten worse and worse. I've tried talking about it with him...and he just says there isn't an issue.....he just doesn't like to do a lot.......I find this so messed up. I know he isn't cheating on me.....But I'm 28 years old not 100! We literally have gone 4 months one time without having sex......and then I eventually initiate (which makes me sick) and then it's blah. I feel like this is the time we should be having more sex than ever. I am a very passionate person and he use to be as well.....I understand stress can trigger not wanting to have sex but I just do not understand. Isn't a MAN suppose to want it all the time and the WOMAN is the one like maybe? I don't feel connected to anymore.....all he does is spend 100% of his time, energy, and focus on trying to work and make money...which I appreciate and respect....but not at the cost of our relationship.......He literally cannot have both the work/money obsession and a healthy relationship with me for some reason. Even if he's a little successful and happy for a little while..........we still don't have sex??? Makes me feel ugly...worthless.....tired.....exhausted...sad....depressed.....and really not even want to have a goal. I'm not much heavier now than when we first got together (a little heavier but not much) I've been wanting to lose the weight....but I almost am afraid if I lose the weight....I'll be a lot more confident and if he doesn't come around I will be tempted to leave...and I do not want that. Very confused....Very Very lonely....I would NEVER EVER cheat on him.....but I literally am so sex/love deprived in my new marriage (for some years now) that I often fantasize all the time about other men..........I mean...literally turned on in the bath tub just by running water going over my shoulder...it's pathetic and I don't feel right........I feel like it's not normal and I do not like it at all.... Talking about it does nothing so I am at a loss?