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After reading many relationship forums I realize my story is pretty common. I am a female married to a man who almost never wants sex or affection. I have nicely let him know how I need that to be happy in our relationship for years. We have been married 6.5 years. I am 40. ( don't look it) He is 34.
We have had many hard issues like him working out of town, him cheating, him doing meth and lying, etc but even sticking it out through all of that and him being home at least on the weekends now we still only have sex about every six weeks. That's not enough for me. I don't think he is cheating on me anymore but he does seem to be happy with porn and not with me.
I am open minded in bed. I have tried to find ways to liven things up. I have asked to do role playing. I have broke down and said I would watch porn with him. He says no to everything. I have asked for an open relationship since his needs are met , but not mine and I get the silent treatment.
He won't go to counseling. I try not to be a nag and ask nicely for my needs to be met. He wont perform oral on me even though I will for him. It's not a hygiene issue either. I have had rave reviews in the past from men with my performance on all levels and my hygiene. I can even shave myself bald down there and he wont have anything to do with me.
He hasn't french kissed me in so long I cant remember how long it's been now. He comes home on the weekend and I will get a hug and a fast peck. He says he is too tired and too busy for sex but he always has time for partying, fishing, video games, and his friends on the weekends when it's his only time with me.
ANy advice other than leaving?
We have had many hard issues like him working out of town, him cheating, him doing meth and lying, etc but even sticking it out through all of that and him being home at least on the weekends now we still only have sex about every six weeks. That's not enough for me. I don't think he is cheating on me anymore but he does seem to be happy with porn and not with me.
I am open minded in bed. I have tried to find ways to liven things up. I have asked to do role playing. I have broke down and said I would watch porn with him. He says no to everything. I have asked for an open relationship since his needs are met , but not mine and I get the silent treatment.
He won't go to counseling. I try not to be a nag and ask nicely for my needs to be met. He wont perform oral on me even though I will for him. It's not a hygiene issue either. I have had rave reviews in the past from men with my performance on all levels and my hygiene. I can even shave myself bald down there and he wont have anything to do with me.
He hasn't french kissed me in so long I cant remember how long it's been now. He comes home on the weekend and I will get a hug and a fast peck. He says he is too tired and too busy for sex but he always has time for partying, fishing, video games, and his friends on the weekends when it's his only time with me.
ANy advice other than leaving?