I just read a very interesting comment made by someone at the very end of their post. I almost glossed over it, but did a second-take on it. I'm sorry, I can't remember who the author was to give him/her the credit.
The comment was something about being more committed to your MARRIAGE than you are to your SPOUSE when working through issues.
It's a very interesting perspective with a lot of implications. So...I'm struggling with some issues in our marriage that my H wants to bury his head in the sand about. I'm almost to the point of being the dreaded Walkaway Wife. But, out of a sense of pure obligation, I feel like I should make one last stand to try to save the marriage. I honestly don't really want to. I'm tired. But I will go ahead with my plan, which is to basically do an intervention with him and force him to open his eyes to our problems.
So, is what I'm doing really showing commitment to my H, or a commitment to the marriage? Which way is right? If I'm committed to my H more than my marriage, which is perhaps what I've done for many years, is this how I've managed to allow my needs to go unmet for so long? Is commitment to your spouse more than to the marriage itself a recipe for becoming a doormat?
I don't know if any of this makes sense, but hoping someone will get what I'm trying to say.
The comment was something about being more committed to your MARRIAGE than you are to your SPOUSE when working through issues.
It's a very interesting perspective with a lot of implications. So...I'm struggling with some issues in our marriage that my H wants to bury his head in the sand about. I'm almost to the point of being the dreaded Walkaway Wife. But, out of a sense of pure obligation, I feel like I should make one last stand to try to save the marriage. I honestly don't really want to. I'm tired. But I will go ahead with my plan, which is to basically do an intervention with him and force him to open his eyes to our problems.
So, is what I'm doing really showing commitment to my H, or a commitment to the marriage? Which way is right? If I'm committed to my H more than my marriage, which is perhaps what I've done for many years, is this how I've managed to allow my needs to go unmet for so long? Is commitment to your spouse more than to the marriage itself a recipe for becoming a doormat?
I don't know if any of this makes sense, but hoping someone will get what I'm trying to say.