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I spent my first Christmas alone. I stayed in my p.j.鈥檚 all day and ate ice cream for breakfast and binge-watched some Netflix shows I鈥檇 been meaning to get around to. Then I took a long nap and ate more ice cream. I was living in the city then and took a nice walk around. Then I ate more ice cream. It was actually a lovely day and I greatly enjoyed it. By the time my child and grandchildren were back in town I was rested (and full of ice cream) and ready to enjoy my holiday with them. The first holidays and birthdays after a divorce are not easy. Do what you wish to do and don鈥檛 do anything you don鈥檛 wish to do. Most of us have been in your shoes. It gets better. Much better
 

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This is my 4th holiday season since my divorce. My first Thanksgiving I did have my two daughters over (older kids) but my oven died halfway through the day lol!

Today I鈥檓 alone but making it a nice day. Slept in, coffee, yummy pasta lunch and then a nap. Hot bath and a pedicure is next with a date planned with my couch and a movie later.
Thanksgiving with my girls will be on Saturday.


Pamper yourself and try to enjoy. Happy Thanksgiving!
 

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Hi TAM, this is my very first Thanksgiving alone. My kids aren't here. My Grandmother passed in 2019. This divorce has been difficult and I know holidays will be hard. But I'm going to be Thankful for today and all the days to come! Happy Thanksgiving TAM!!
Happy Thanksgiving!!!! 馃馃
 

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Yes indeed, it's raining but I do plan on getting out later. Thank you, Happy Thanksgiving
Today, I'd much rather be alone. But it's just best to find something that you love doing as a way to distract yourself. I think that time still heals most wounds.
Yes, I think that it's best. It will do nothing but make me stronger. Thank you.
 

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Hi TAM, this is my very first Thanksgiving alone. My kids aren't here. My Grandmother passed in 2019. This divorce has been difficult and I know holidays will be hard. But I'm going to be Thankful for today and all the days to come! Happy Thanksgiving TAM!!
The good thing is you can do whatever you want to do. Happy Thanksgiving!
 

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I spent my first Christmas alone. I stayed in my p.j.鈥檚 all day and ate ice cream for breakfast and binge-watched some Netflix shows I鈥檇 been meaning to get around to. Then I took a long nap and ate more ice cream. I was living in the city then and took a nice walk around. Then I ate more ice cream. It was actually a lovely day and I greatly enjoyed it. By the time my child and grandchildren were back in town I was rested (and full of ice cream) and ready to enjoy my holiday with them. The first holidays and birthdays after a divorce are not easy. Do what you wish to do and don鈥檛 do anything you don鈥檛 wish to do. Most of us have been in your shoes. It gets better. Much better
Thank you, I'm just here appreciating being in my own company. That part of NOT DOING ANYTHING I DONT WANT TO DO! I have been invited to a few dinners but I don't want to go and I don't have to!
 

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This is my 4th holiday season since my divorce. My first Thanksgiving I did have my two daughters over (older kids) but my oven died halfway through the day lol!

Today I鈥檓 alone but making it a nice day. Slept in, coffee, yummy pasta lunch and then a nap. Hot bath and a pedicure is next with a date planned with my couch and a movie later.
Thanksgiving with my girls will be on Saturday.


Pamper yourself and try to enjoy. Happy Thanksgiving!
Yes, I will indeed try. I'm not too sad and that's the best part about it.
 

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Yas, and it's almost over anyway. I wrapped and stored gifts, I guess I'll take a nap. Happy Thanksgiving!
I got up and change the bed and then showered and ate my holiday meal that I made yesterday and watched Gunsmoke. And then I'm doing some laundry. Just had a H盲agen-Dazs ice cream treat and watching more Gunsmoke. I'm thinking about renting the Elvis movie. I'm hoping it will keep me from shopping online.
 

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It's tough after any breakup, especially a long term relationship- not just a divorce. Especially if no family around or you're estranged.

I find myself spending this Thanksgiving alone. Well not entirely. Saw my 93 year old dad at his independent living home for a couple of hours, got served a turkey meal for lunch, I was the only visitor there were about 20 senior citizens there. I do have a girlfriend, we're 5 months in, but it's casual, not sure where its going, she's over an hour away, we didn't make plans to get together today, and yes that's a sign of where we are at although she's coming to me for the weekend.

My prior relationship was 10 years and we'd go to her sister's house, there'd be at least a dozen family members, spouses, kids.. lots of drinking, lots of loud conversations, lots of bad food. I found myself not wanting to go the last few years and counting down the minutes until it was time to leave. Now that it's over, and I'm sitting here on my couch alone in my house, I miss it.
 

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Thank you, I'm just here appreciating being in my own company. That part of NOT DOING ANYTHING I DONT WANT TO DO! I have been invited to a few dinners but I don't want to go and I don't have to!
Yes, that feeling of freedom is priceless. I was married for a very long time and during those decades I did many things that I didn鈥檛 want to do because 鈥 marriage. When I decided to get a divorce I promised myself that those days were gone forever. And they are. Now it鈥檚 all about what I want to do and when I want to do it. I finally have peace in my life and I wouldn鈥檛 trade it for any other life than the one I have.
 

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I know what it's like. Have been divorced twice. First holiday after separation is really tough. It won't always be like this. You'll rebuild your life. Alone or with a partner. In my experience, either way can be great. Just not right away. One must mourn one's losses and then space opens for something new.
 

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I know what it's like. Have been divorced twice. First holiday after separation is really tough. It won't always be like this. You'll rebuild your life. Alone or with a partner. In my experience, either way can be great. Just not right away. One must mourn one's losses and then space opens for something new.
Thank you, I need time to heal my heart before I open that space for someone else. Happy Thanksgiving!
 

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I got up and change the bed and then showered and ate my holiday meal that I made yesterday and watched Gunsmoke. And then I'm doing some laundry. Just had a H盲agen-Dazs ice cream treat and watching more Gunsmoke. I'm thinking about renting the Elvis movie. I'm hoping it will keep me from shopping online.
Yes, I will not be doing any shopping!. I've binge-watched 1899 and I'm having a drink before bed. Happy Thanksgiving!
 

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Yes, that feeling of freedom is priceless. I was married for a very long time and during those decades I did many things that I didn鈥檛 want to do because 鈥 marriage. When I decided to get a divorce I promised myself that those days were gone forever. And they are. Now it鈥檚 all about what I want to do and when I want to do it. I finally have peace in my life and I wouldn鈥檛 trade it for any other life than the one I have.
鉂も潳鉂も潳 when you find that peace it's irreplaceable. My mind and heart is at peace.
 
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