So I have been with this man for 9 years and have a son with him. He put me through h$ll the entire relationship in one form or another. He became abusive and I left him and did not talk to him for 3 months. During that time he had sex with people who were close to me but I had mentioned to him that they liked him (while we were together) and he blew it off and even got disrespectful saying I was crazy and delusional. When I left him, you might say that it was fair he had sex with someone else esp with me not talking to him, well, I was hoping he was a good man and wanted to work things out and was going to find a way to get me back. He did try calling me and writing me lame emails that were half love and half threats so I never responded. I finally called him and we began to work through things and I find out from other people he had sex with two of my friends. It was like pulling teeth to get an admission out of him. We got back together after splitting up and he is a changed man. He is very good to me and I deeply love and care about him. But we haven't been able to talk through it without it turning into an argument. We got married and he has gotten to the point he walks away if I bring it up so I try not to. But it is on my mind every day. Constantly. And now, I want to have sex with his old friend. They don't talk anymore but I have wanted to be with this man for years and actually was before ever dating my husband. I fantasize about him at least 3 times a week. It is overwhelming me... Help!