This is why "nice guys" get a bad rep sometimes. It is very frustrating to live with one!
H's birthday is coming up. Every birthday, I make him a cake and either cook him a special meal or go to a nice restaurant - his choosing. So, its only a few days away and I would like to know what he wants, so I can either plan and shop for the meal or make sure we have reservations for the restaurant he chooses.
What do you want to do for dinner on your birthday?
- Oh, I dunno...let's just order pizza?
Really? Wouldn't you like to do something a little nicer than that? Do you really just want pizza?
- Well, I don't want to have you go to any trouble, you'll be working and wont want to cook when you get home...
(Side note - this is not a true statement, as I come home from work and cook dinner for the family every night, I enjoy doing it and he knows that!)
Can't you just tell me what you really want? I told you its no trouble. I want to do something nice for you!
- I dont know, what do you want to do that night?
You didnt answer my question. I asked you what YOU want for YOUR biethday, i wasnt asking you to try to guess what I wanted. Just tell me!
-Well I was thinking it might be nice to go to that new sushi restaurant...but you probably wouldn't want to go all the way there on a Fri night after work, right?
I don't mind, I think that sounds like a nice idea.
No matter how many times I ask him to plainly tell me what he wants, a conversation filled with hemming and hawing ensues.
A similar conversation went down about his cake - started with him telling me to buy one (when we both know he hates the taste of store bought cakes), then trying to guess what would be easiest for me to make, then actually telling me a specific cake he clearly wanted.
Then, just a couple of hours later, he does this -
-I got invited to a football party this Sunday at the presidents (of his company) house, but I already told them no that I was busy that day
Why did you do that?! You know we don't have plans on Sunday.
-Well, I figured you wouldn't want me to go.
Why would you think that? I have always encouraged you to go to things like that, and if the president invited you to his house don't you think you should go?
- Yea, but whatever. I already told them no.
Are the other managers going?
- Yea, everyone but me.
So, don't you think you should probably go?
- I guess...you really don't mind?
No! I told you to go!
Seriously ...why can't he just come to me like a normal human being, tell me he's going out for the game on Sunday. I have never given him a hard time, so the PA comments irk me to my core!
And, before you mention it, he's already read NMMNG and I don't think it sank in.
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H's birthday is coming up. Every birthday, I make him a cake and either cook him a special meal or go to a nice restaurant - his choosing. So, its only a few days away and I would like to know what he wants, so I can either plan and shop for the meal or make sure we have reservations for the restaurant he chooses.
What do you want to do for dinner on your birthday?
- Oh, I dunno...let's just order pizza?
Really? Wouldn't you like to do something a little nicer than that? Do you really just want pizza?
- Well, I don't want to have you go to any trouble, you'll be working and wont want to cook when you get home...
(Side note - this is not a true statement, as I come home from work and cook dinner for the family every night, I enjoy doing it and he knows that!)
Can't you just tell me what you really want? I told you its no trouble. I want to do something nice for you!
- I dont know, what do you want to do that night?
You didnt answer my question. I asked you what YOU want for YOUR biethday, i wasnt asking you to try to guess what I wanted. Just tell me!
-Well I was thinking it might be nice to go to that new sushi restaurant...but you probably wouldn't want to go all the way there on a Fri night after work, right?
I don't mind, I think that sounds like a nice idea.
No matter how many times I ask him to plainly tell me what he wants, a conversation filled with hemming and hawing ensues.
A similar conversation went down about his cake - started with him telling me to buy one (when we both know he hates the taste of store bought cakes), then trying to guess what would be easiest for me to make, then actually telling me a specific cake he clearly wanted.
Then, just a couple of hours later, he does this -
-I got invited to a football party this Sunday at the presidents (of his company) house, but I already told them no that I was busy that day
Why did you do that?! You know we don't have plans on Sunday.
-Well, I figured you wouldn't want me to go.
Why would you think that? I have always encouraged you to go to things like that, and if the president invited you to his house don't you think you should go?
- Yea, but whatever. I already told them no.
Are the other managers going?
- Yea, everyone but me.
So, don't you think you should probably go?
- I guess...you really don't mind?
No! I told you to go!
Seriously ...why can't he just come to me like a normal human being, tell me he's going out for the game on Sunday. I have never given him a hard time, so the PA comments irk me to my core!
And, before you mention it, he's already read NMMNG and I don't think it sank in.
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