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Well, I have tried that in the past and got them thrown in my face. Some women has such body self image issues that anything implying sex simple is too threatening for them.

Yes, flowers. Yes, a movie. No to restaurants as they are way too crowded. Home with a bottle of wine and an Amazon firestick movie is not the plan.

For me V-day is a day of low expectations, that way I am not disapointed.
Ouch. I'm sorry.
 

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It looks like a lot of people avoid going out to eat on valentines because the restaurants are packed. I don't think I have ever noticed this.

Of course it might help that I rarely take my wife out on valentines day. I just use it as an excuse to take her out. The actual day we go out will depend on what day we decide we can both enjoy it. As far as I am concerned any day we go out during the month of February is our celebration of valentines day. (Usually we keep it within a week of the actual date. This gives us at least two weekend to work with.)

This year we will be going out on Saturday. Our oldest child has a church activity that we are taking him and some other youth to. We will drop them off, then go shopping for tile and other things we need for our bathroom remodel. Have an early dinner. Pick up the youth. Make the 2.5 hour drive home. Then who knows what. ;)
 

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I really don't want to fight the crowds going out to dinner...especially on a Friday night this year. We love cooking together so our original plan was to make a nice prime rib meal together. But his girl wants dinner out to celebrate her birthday so out we go!! But we'll be going to a good fire grilled pizza place that doesn't take reservations and can't be considered romantic at all so I doubt they'll be a lot of coupls there fighting for tables. She's the sweetest thing and really wants me there and how can I say no to that? Of course, I just found out she wants her Mom there too...should make for a funny story..."what did you guys do for your first Valentine's together?" "We went out with his wife." LOL Thankfully she and I get along just fine and we're going early enough that we'll have our own time alone later in the evening.

I might wear something special that I give him a peek at just before we leave the house just to torture him though. >:)
 

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This is the first Valentine’s day that I’ll have acknowledged for a number of years, to be honest, and I’m more than a little excited! I’ve never been out for dinner, but that is what beau has planned for us. Last week, I put in an order for a small vase of underwater orchids to be sent to his office on Friday. As for what I’d like him to do for me… I’d just like his time. After dinner, we’ll go kick back for the evening, and the following day, I’m taking him cross-country skiing for the first time. And, we just hit 11 months (boy, does time sure fly!) :grin2:
 

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After Saturday, probably better do something. She is working friday and saturday, so Wednesday is the night this year. I'll just declare it steak and all the oral sex she can handle day. I won't get any consideration. But, it's ok I'm well aware VD is for girls.
 

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Valentine's Day? Yuk...



A consumerist day to shame and pressure men into spending money on crap no one needs and for women to flex their gifts on any other woman they come across.



I'll let the ladies in on a little secret. Most men put little real thought into what they buy you. They work off a price point and hope it is just a little more than your friends/sister receives. The same goes for jewelry.

I’ll tell the men a little secret... we like the thought and effort. A lot.
 

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Wow, why the hate on for V-Day?

I mean, it's basically a freebie to buy your wife some lingerie and have a fun night. Costs you some flowers and a card or something. Maybe a small gift. Why is that so bad?
I get it; it’s a Hallmark holiday that greatly benefits retailers. I’m sending some flowers to my man that day because I think it’s a nice gesture, and he’s never received flowers. I didn’t go over the top though, and when I was online looking at flowers, I was astounded at the cost of roses which seems to be the most popular for V-day. I’m not a big fan, and would prefer something like daisies or something similar. I also agree with those who state that it’s the other 364 days that count more. Really, if you can’t show your SO your love and devotion during the rest of the year, it’s pretty pointless on Feb 14th.

But, I get your point to @Marduk. Personally, I’ve never been a huge fan of V-day and haven’t acknowledged it for years. But am looking forward to it this year because I’m with a pretty awesome man.
 

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What are you doing for your significant other for valentines day?
What WOULD you like your significant other to do for you?
Does anyone decorate and actually get into Valentine’s Day?
Buying a nice present and a card. :)
 

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This is the first Valentine’s day that I’ll have acknowledged for a number of years, to be honest, and I’m more than a little excited! I’ve never been out for dinner, but that is what beau has planned for us. Last week, I put in an order for a small vase of underwater orchids to be sent to his office on Friday. As for what I’d like him to do for me… I’d just like his time. After dinner, we’ll go kick back for the evening, and the following day, I’m taking him cross-country skiing for the first time. And, we just hit 11 months (boy, does time sure fly!) :grin2:
Spoke too soon here, and plans have changed a bit. SO's 9 year old daughter asked what her Dad was doing this week, and he told her that him and I were going out for dinner on Valentine's Day. She got jealous and started crying, so he's now taking her and his older daughter out for dinner and I'll be once again treating it as any other day. I'm in the midst of a mound of freelance projects, so after my day of working the full time job, I'll probably come home and work some more.

Can't say I'm not disappointed, and I may have cried a bit after hanging up with him. Should have known not to get my hopes up!
 

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This is the first Valentine’s day that I’ll have acknowledged for a number of years, to be honest, and I’m more than a little excited! I’ve never been out for dinner, but that is what beau has planned for us. Last week, I put in an order for a small vase of underwater orchids to be sent to his office on Friday. As for what I’d like him to do for me… I’d just like his time. After dinner, we’ll go kick back for the evening, and the following day, I’m taking him cross-country skiing for the first time. And, we just hit 11 months (boy, does time sure fly!) <a href="http://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/TAMarriage_2015/smilies/tango_face_grin.png" border="0" alt="" title="Big Grin" >:)</a>
Spoke too soon here, and plans have changed a bit. SO's 9 year old daughter asked what her Dad was doing this week, and he told her that him and I were going out for dinner on Valentine's Day. She got jealous and started crying, so he's now taking her and his older daughter out for dinner and I'll be once again treating it as any other day. I'm in the midst of a mound of freelance projects, so after my day of working the full time job, I'll probably come home and work some more.

Can't say I'm not disappointed, and I may have cried a bit after hanging up with him. Should have known not to get my hopes up!
What? So you two had dinner plans, but now he's taking his children out to dinner and you are not invited?

Help me understand this.

Also, is it a night that he'd usually be with the children? Were they originally going to be with the other parent, or was he going to get a sitter?
 

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Spoke too soon here, and plans have changed a bit. SO's 9 year old daughter asked what her Dad was doing this week, and he told her that him and I were going out for dinner on Valentine's Day. She got jealous and started crying, so he's now taking her and his older daughter out for dinner and I'll be once again treating it as any other day. I'm in the midst of a mound of freelance projects, so after my day of working the full time job, I'll probably come home and work some more.

Can't say I'm not disappointed, and I may have cried a bit after hanging up with him. Should have known not to get my hopes up!
I'm with @Livvie on this one. Is Valentine's day one of his usual custody days? Did you let him know how disappointed you were that he had to cancel your date?
 

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I don't have a SO so up until 2 weeks ago, I thought this was going to be another year with nothing to do on Valentine's day but it looks like I'm going to have a full weekend of activities.

My girlfriends and I are getting together for dinner Thursday night for Galentine's day; I'm headed to an Anti-Valentine's Day party on Friday with a girlfriend; going out dancing with a friend (not calling it a date) Saturday night; and spending some serious cash at a five star restaurant on Sunday night with my Foodie Group (been looking forward to this one a long time). I'm going to need a month to recover from all of that.
 

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I like to acknowledge and kinda celebrate Valentine's day. Before kids my husband and I used to go out or cook something special at home. Now most likely we stay home. It's too crazy to go out.

This year, since vd is on a Friday and President's day is Monday, we decided to go on a little trip to Mexico with the kids and another couple. I have to take my little valentine with us. My daughter was named after St. Valentine.
 

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Spoke too soon here, and plans have changed a bit. SO's 9 year old daughter asked what her Dad was doing this week, and he told her that him and I were going out for dinner on Valentine's Day. She got jealous and started crying, so he's now taking her and his older daughter out for dinner and I'll be once again treating it as any other day. I'm in the midst of a mound of freelance projects, so after my day of working the full time job, I'll probably come home and work some more.

Can't say I'm not disappointed, and I may have cried a bit after hanging up with him. Should have known not to get my hopes up!
Well, dirty word!!! I am so sorry. This is painful in more ways than one. You were so excited. Has this happened before? What a blankety-blank precedent!:(
 

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@Livvie, yeah, we had made plans last week to go out for Valentine’s day supper, which is something I’ve never done and was really excited about. I get along well with both daughters, but late last year, his youngest went through a stage where she was scared that her Dad was going to leave her for me, and she didn’t want him dating. She’s been opening up more since the New Year though, but she’s still jealous of time him and I spend together. So yes, she got upset and now he’s going to dinner with his daughters and no, I’m not invited. We have plans all day on Saturday now instead, which is fine, but I’m now worried that if his youngest finds out, she’ll be upset about that too. I like her; she’s a sweet kiddo, but I think she’s quite proficient at knowing how to get what she wants from her Dad, unfortunately. In answer to your last question, this is his week without his daughter (his youngest is with him every second week; his oldest visits him during that week but doesn’t stay with him). So, they were supposed to be with their Mom.
@Lila, yes, he’s well aware of how disappointed I am. Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time this has happened either. I have a lot of patience, and realize that his kids take precedence. But, we (as a couple) need to take priority sometimes, I feel.
@sunsetmist, this has happened before, yes, but not on a holiday. Just a few dates here and there had to be cancelled or rescheduled. I worry that this is going to be my future, and I’m not happy with that thought. My own fault for getting my hopes up and being excited… Lesson learned!
 
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