US poll, 70% of people cheat at bachelor and bachelorette parties

Yes we went out of state for mine and it included multiple strip clubs with lap dancing involved. The same thing happened often with my friends except that was closer to home.

My wife had a time or two on Bourbon St. New Orleans and they did the same thing.

If I remember correctly their was one that both the girls and guys were on Bourbon St. at the same time. My wife met me at the club we were at later that night when everything was winding down. I believe my brother was getting a lap dance on stage when she walked in. Nobody cares…

Rowdy women behavior…. I doubt it ……maybe?

I hope they had fun.

****s Given = Zero

We were young …… it’s kid stuff.

Lostinthought61 said:

We men are so primitive when it comes to that crap. I ended up passed out way to early.

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It's not just men. Some women put men to shame during bachelorette parties. Men in strip clubs are expected to behave, and are forbidden from touching the dancers in most clubs.

Women watching male strippers is a totally different experience. They're putting hands on every inch of the men, kissing them, grinding against them, exposing themselves, etc. Have you seen the movie Magic Mike? It's pretty accurate on how some women behave when men strip. Not all clubs allow the touching, but many do because that's how they make more money.

Women get primal as soon as the male stripper steps onto the stage. Screaming excitedly, yelling "take it off" or any other "mating call" they can think of. 😄 Shoving their phone numbers in the man's thong was so common that we'd start a betting pool on who would get the most numbers.

I was a bartender for over a decade, and id rather work during a bachelor party over a bachelorette party, hands down!

Young at Heart said:

Q1: So how many people had bachelor or bachelorette parties prior to marriage?

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I did no party before my first or second marriage. Before my first marriage I was going to insane parties weekly, anyway, so I didn't feel the need. When I married DH I was passing through the tail end of my partying years and had no desire for a bachelorette thing.

DH did a gamer nerd bachelor party with a few friends. They spent late into the night at one of the guys apartment with a couple different gaming consoles, a ton of food, a little liquor, and a lot of weed.

Young at Heart said:

Q2: Any thing you did at one, that you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about?

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Nope. I've been to three bachelor/bachelorette parties. The bachelorette parties were incredibly boring. The bachelor party wasn't exactly exciting, but the liquor was better and there were far more laughs.

Jimi007 said:

I did read that assessment...I don't know if a lap dance is cheating though. I've never had one . Is it ?

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Do you consider having a woman wearing a g-string, thong, bikini, or skimpy lingerie grinding her labia on a man's bulge while shoving her tits in his face cheating? I sure as hell do.

Mr.Married said:

Women are very responsive to their environment and especially so in groups. An environment of preconceived acceptance really allows them to cut loose.

Put a pile of them in your boat and go to the party cove. The women out do the men easily every single time on every single boat.

Create the environment…inhibitors go out the door

Men that understand the concept are at a huge advantage

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This is an interesting topic worthy of it's own discussion.

Anthropologist and researcher Dr Wednesday Martin refers to this as "... women's sexuality takes the shape of it's social container."

In essence women's sexualities and sexual proclivities and mores are not as fixed as men's. Women's sexuality is much more fluid and adaptable than men's. A woman's social and societal environment will play a bigger role in her sexual proclivity than a man's.

Put a woman in a very rigid, conservative and sex negative community and she will often become very rigid and uptight and inhibited and find sexual contexts very stressful and daunting.

Take her out of that environment and put her in a much more sexually accepting and embracing and nuturing environment where consent and free agency are valued and she will become more sexually open and responsive.

Especially if she is given free agency and societal permission by other women.

In a podcast I listened to Dr Martin discussed some research observations where a group of heterosexual, suburban, soccer moms were invited to attend a lesbian swinger's club in New York City. The women self-described themselves as straight, monogamous, traditional in their lifestyle etc etc but by the end of the night many were donut bumping and boobie rubbing on a variety of other women and a number of them began making weekly trips to the club while still maintaining their garden variety heterosexual, suburban, soccer mom lifestyles during the week.

I think that concept heavily influences the bachelorette party/male strip club mentality. Women are almost given a free pass to engage in behavior with other women at a bachelorette party/male strip club that would otherwise be completely verboten in any other area of polite society.

Bachelor party/female strip club get kind of a boys-will-be-boys rolls of the eyes and shake of the head as people walk away in varying degrees of disgust. But women are almost darn near embraced and encouraged by their sisterhood to fly their freak flag at such an occasion.

This also kind of applies to how society treats the engaged partner of someone who does engage in sexual acts at a bachelor/bachelorette party.

If a man has sex with another woman during her bachelor party, no one really questions the woman for calling off the wedding and they will circle around her and hand her a kleenex to dab the tear from her eye.

If a woman has sex with another man at her bachelorette party and her fiance finds out about it, a good number of people will encourage him to get over it and suck it up and tell him that it was a party environment and a lot of alcohol and things got carried away and that she just got caught up in the moment and "just happened" and that that is very out of character for her etc etc etc

I don't understand why this is, but it's almost like male strip venues have some kind of zoning ordinances to where they are exempt from other rules and codes of conduct of society.