[Livvie]

This amount of fragility is a huge turn off.

 

[Livvie]

I think you've been given some good advice, OP. I'd also add to replace that negative internal voice (''she must want to play cards more than she wants to have sex with me'') with something else. I have a feeling if you start working on that part of your mindset, you won't take things so personally, and you'll be able to go with the flow a bit better.

Well, here's the thing, what if in that moment she did want to play cards more than have sex?

That should be okay. She should be allowed that without it being a big emotional scene for her husband.