I'm new here and didn't know where to post. I am 41,and she is 41. been married for 19 years. Have 4 children, 1 step child who is in prison for drugs, 1 child whom we took in as adopted, but who is really a friends child, and two of my own children from our marriage. I met my wife when I was 21, I didn't know she even had a child until six months later. We had my first son at 24. Married at 30. She spent a month in a behavioral clinic (against her will), then another two weeks later on in there of her own free will. She has about 5 assault charges against me. Domestic abuse. I have 1 charge against me "interfering with a 911 call" because I took the phone from her one night so she would stop calling 911 every time something went wrong. She had a one night stand with my long time friend two years ago, and since that time has lost her job, been arrested 3 times. Done drugs with her daughter, abandoned her family for a month with no indication where she was to anybody, does not think she needs a job to help me out, and is a lousy homemaker. She did not used to be this way, but ever since her infidelity she has. She blames me for all of her problems. Her own mother has offered to help me pay for a divorce, but I always thought that you should stand by your vows. I am a musician. I pay all of our bills, she contributes nothing to helping out financially. When she does do housework it is half-assed. She was diagnosed with high anxiety disorder, (which I think is BS) She has hit me in front of my 17 year old son, only yo have her own son defend me. She has wrecked our home a few times out of anger, and I am just fed up with her BS. Any advice?