This is my first,
Background: My wife and I have a 9-month-old son. She stays at home and takes care of him while I work.
My wife doesn't get any joy from me. She says she loves me, and I'm sure that in some way she does, but honestly, I feel like I can do no right. I feel completely unwanted both physically and mentally. I feel like I nothing I do makes her even moderately happy.
What can I do to make my marriage better?
I thought I knew the answers to that one, and they are as follows:
1) Make more money.
2) Clean more.
3) Make more simple decisions. (where to eat, what movies to watch, etc.)
I'm too sensitive about a lot of these issues, I'm aware. I shouldn't take offense to the things she's unhappy about; lack of extra spending money, our inability to live in a house, not stocking foods she likes because they are too expensive or any of the other hundred or so little things that make her life miserable to live, but I do.
Example:
When we leave home and I ask her to grab a snack, she doesn't because she wants 'real food'. (Real food consists of intricate meals designed to blow your taste buds away, and if that's not a possibility macaroni and cheese will do) and that upsets me because she says we can't afford them or the snacks she likes, which is a direct reflection of me and my ability to provide.
I know she doesn't mean it that way, but that's how I perceive the comment, as an attack on me. Any complaint about our lives, I take personally because it's my responsibility to look after the family unit.
I just want her happiness. and I feel like the I'm the problem. What do you think?
Background: My wife and I have a 9-month-old son. She stays at home and takes care of him while I work.
My wife doesn't get any joy from me. She says she loves me, and I'm sure that in some way she does, but honestly, I feel like I can do no right. I feel completely unwanted both physically and mentally. I feel like I nothing I do makes her even moderately happy.
What can I do to make my marriage better?
I thought I knew the answers to that one, and they are as follows:
1) Make more money.
2) Clean more.
3) Make more simple decisions. (where to eat, what movies to watch, etc.)
I'm too sensitive about a lot of these issues, I'm aware. I shouldn't take offense to the things she's unhappy about; lack of extra spending money, our inability to live in a house, not stocking foods she likes because they are too expensive or any of the other hundred or so little things that make her life miserable to live, but I do.
Example:
When we leave home and I ask her to grab a snack, she doesn't because she wants 'real food'. (Real food consists of intricate meals designed to blow your taste buds away, and if that's not a possibility macaroni and cheese will do) and that upsets me because she says we can't afford them or the snacks she likes, which is a direct reflection of me and my ability to provide.
I know she doesn't mean it that way, but that's how I perceive the comment, as an attack on me. Any complaint about our lives, I take personally because it's my responsibility to look after the family unit.
I just want her happiness. and I feel like the I'm the problem. What do you think?