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My husband and I were married in March 2008 and dates about 3 years prior to this. We have two boys ages 5 and 2. My husband has always been a lovey dovey kinda guy. Texts me how much he loves me, ect. Well, about 3 weeks ago this changed...
We have NOT had a good sex life in the past few years. Maybe twice a month. I grew up with parents who stayed together, but showed no affection, so in turn that is how I am.
My husband told me he is not happy...He never said he was leaving, but just that he was not happy. He feels we are best friends, but not lovers...He tried to emotionally shut down and become distant, but I haven't let him. I told him we need to fight for our marriage. We started MC last week. I thought it went well....He said "I don't feel different" but I told him we won't be fixed in one session...We are going again tomorrow and he says he will go. He says he still has hope for us, it is just SO hard to stay patient and give him time to try and have feelings for me. He says he isn't ready to have sex with me yet. He says it is weird for him to be unhappy, then feel good having sex, then feel unhappy after...BUT, we are going out together Saturday to a bar and band and I am hoping we can have some good time re-connect...I love him and I want our family to stay as a whole unit...
I do feel as I am the only one trying, but trying to remind myself to give him time...Has anyone had issues where one or both of you were unhappy, but it got better??
We have NOT had a good sex life in the past few years. Maybe twice a month. I grew up with parents who stayed together, but showed no affection, so in turn that is how I am.
My husband told me he is not happy...He never said he was leaving, but just that he was not happy. He feels we are best friends, but not lovers...He tried to emotionally shut down and become distant, but I haven't let him. I told him we need to fight for our marriage. We started MC last week. I thought it went well....He said "I don't feel different" but I told him we won't be fixed in one session...We are going again tomorrow and he says he will go. He says he still has hope for us, it is just SO hard to stay patient and give him time to try and have feelings for me. He says he isn't ready to have sex with me yet. He says it is weird for him to be unhappy, then feel good having sex, then feel unhappy after...BUT, we are going out together Saturday to a bar and band and I am hoping we can have some good time re-connect...I love him and I want our family to stay as a whole unit...
I do feel as I am the only one trying, but trying to remind myself to give him time...Has anyone had issues where one or both of you were unhappy, but it got better??