Have you noticed any other changes in him recently?
Please suggest to your husband nicely that you would like him to take you out on dates he did before you got married. Dinner, sporting events, concerts, shows, ... any or all of the above. Ask him to pick the time and place, make the arrangements and let you know when to be ready. In you case, I would suggest you ask him to set up a "date night" and do this every weekI do feel as I am the only one trying, but trying to remind myself to give him time...Has anyone had issues where one or both of you were unhappy, but it got better??
spot on"I grew up with parents who stayed together, but showed no affection, so in turn that is how I am"
Hmmm...Was this brought up in counseling? I would hazard a guess that he no longers feels he is desired by you and is tired of making the efforts all the time