My wife is very fond of yelling.
She once yelled at me in the therapist's office. I asked her to stop yelling. She said she wasn't. Therapist said she was. Her response?
After some digging, she realized that she came from a family that yelled all the time, and because she was a woman and I was 'a big strong man,' she felt free to yell at me.
It wasn't that yelling bothered me especially, it was that she gave herself freedom to yell at me. Of course, I could not yell at her, and she didn't yell at anyone else in her life except for me in general.
So it was literally that she let the rules be different for me because she knew I could take it and probably wouldn't leave. That's not such a great approach to relationships.
She still yells occasionally. The difference is that she now acknowledges she's doing it instead of claiming she didn't. And it doesn't happen so often any more. I'm good with that.
It sounds like your wife and I are very similar. I am Christian as well and like my man to be a certain way. It’s like reverse sexism, I think he should be the man of the house and therefore “better” or a certain way of that makes sense.