Here goes . . . I've been married for 15 years. We've gone through our sexual ups and downs like any couple. I was the W that H's complained about. Didn't initiate, made excuses, always too tired . . . I was that person. He wasn't great about it, he made his own mistakes, but now something's happened. I'm the one that isn't fulfilled. I could basically have sex daily. (and for you men that are like, wait, stop what happened, i want my wife to have that problem . . . all i can say is Fifty Shades of Grey). I've done things in the past month that i never thought i would do and considering more. My husband is of course very happy. He says it's like being married to a different woman. So this is all great a dandy. But now i realize that I HATE SEX WITH MY H!! It starts off fine, i end up frustrated, angry and sometimes crying. He almost never takes the time to pleasure me, and we are done in 10 minutes. It's the definition of Wham Bam thank you Ma'am. He has never been good at stamina, and in the past if i am truthful, that worked for me, because i just wanted to get it over with. Now, I'm like damn, what am i gonna do now! I'm really sensitive to his needs, and i don't want to make him feel bad. Seriously, telling a husband that he doesn't do it for you is not a great conversation to have. I don't want to bring him down, (its quite the opposite obviously). So i have tried humor. We had this conversation where we spoke about my orgasms, and i told him quite honestly that he finds release 100% of the time, where i'm more like at 20% (i was being generous). He said with all seriousness he'll try for 50%! REALLY. And i said so, I said really, wow. That's how much you think of my pleasure, and he laughed at himself saying well at least it's an improvement. Since that talk, i think the percentage has actually gone down. I guess my question to the women is, are all men this selfish??? Do your H's care about your pleasure? Or do these men only exist in romance novels? And to the men: honestly, do you care? Have you always? Does the partner matter? Do i basically have to say HEY GIVE ME A FREAKING ORGASM OR KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS?? I am wrong to expect that my H actually wants to pleasure me?