[Gaming Your Wife]

Ya know,I can't believe how on earth how one could live in a relationship without sex and still be kind and considerate to the O/P. Just what the hell has happened to the human race. If we wanted a roommate we would of stayed single. If one person in marriage has a inability to perform,or a unwillingness to correspond sexual with the person they married,Then why don't they raise the white flay and surrender their ring. Maybe I am wrong. But I call B.S. on all the lame excuses for not wanting to per-take in a well balance sexual relationship with your Other.
All you hear is I'am tired ,Sick, Headache,Not tonight,Maybe tomorrow,Later, It all come down to attraction for the other.When the attraction stops so does the sex.I would bet that the L.D. person if seperated would be all over the new person in their life.So why don't they all come clean and just admit they just don't care anymore.
Here's my deal cause I 'am in the same boat.I made a pact with my wife. She could careless for sex. But not my fault???So instead of fighting about it for all these years I said how about I will be the model husband and you give me 10 mins of sex a week. I will not ask for more.So what I get is sex eather once for ten mins. or twice for 5mins.or 3 times a week for 3 mins.she could care less. I am happy and she is happy.I have never been in such a ggood mood.Talk about quickies.Think about it all the troubles are gone. And we love ea other so much. Should of done it years ago.

 

[deejov]

I'm glad it works for you.

I'm not happy or satisfied with a room-mates agreement that includes 10 mins of sex a week. I'd rather be alone, and be free to seek a full rewarding relationship and fall in love. I'd feel very used.

That's just me, though.

 

[Gaming Your Wife]

I get where your coming from. But at least the battle is over for now.I do Love her very much. And she is worth the pain. I try to give her space for her to be the way she is. And in return she takes care of me the best she can.We are still in love,And not sexless.

 

[unbelievable]

My plan is to pray this business in Israel turns into a full scale war and I'll get some deployment orders. This rejection crap stinks to high heaven and I'm beyond ready to go somewhere where it's legal to kill people.

 

[PHTlump]

I'm glad you're currently satisfied. I doubt it is a long-term solution. Most men can't settle for 10 minutes of their wives rolling their eyes and asking them to hurry it up. If all it's about is an orgasm, why not just use a prostitute? A prostitute can at least fake interest. And your wife doesn't even have to be involved at all. And 10 minutes with a prostitute can't be very expensive.

In any case, I hope things work out both short-term and long-term.

Good luck.

 

[sweaty teddy]

Ya know,I can't believe how on earth how one could live in a relationship without sex and still be kind and considerate to the O/P. Just what the hell has happened to the human race. If we wanted a roommate we would of stayed single. If one person in marriage has a inability to perform,or a unwillingness to correspond sexual with the person they married,Then why don't they raise the white flay and surrender their ring. Maybe I am wrong. But I call B.S. on all the lame excuses for not wanting to per-take in a well balance sexual relationship with your Other.
All you hear is I'am tired ,Sick, Headache,Not tonight,Maybe tomorrow,Later, It all come down to attraction for the other.When the attraction stops so does the sex.I would bet that the L.D. person if seperated would be all over the new person in their life.So why don't they all come clean and just admit they just don't care anymore.
Here's my deal cause I 'am in the same boat.I made a pact with my wife. She could careless for sex. But not my fault???So instead of fighting about it for all these years I said how about I will be the model husband and you give me 10 mins of sex a week. I will not ask for more.So what I get is sex eather once for ten mins. or twice for 5mins.or 3 times a week for 3 mins.she could care less. I am happy and she is happy.I have never been in such a ggood mood.Talk about quickies.Think about it all the troubles are gone. And we love ea other so much. Should of done it years ago.

so you get to be the model husband and for that you get 10mins of pity sex....wow I guess it will work for you but after a while it would get stale.

I would take the exact oppisite aproach. quit asking for sex. quit being a model husband and tell her your done unless she opens up about why she don't want to work on a real marriage.

by the way most women need much more than 10,5,3 mins of sex to orgasm.could it be that your just not as good as you think you are between the sheets?

when I first got married I thought I was the man....during pillow talk I would ask if she orgasmed and she would respond that she did. only to later find out i was a dud. now mind you when I would ask her what she liked she would always say everything you know what i like. she was also very vanilla. then one day as I was surching the web for porn i came accross a web site showing women giving themselves orgasms. and how they can ejuculate and how their pu$$y contracts and spasms during orgasm. the light went off and i realised that I wsn't the man I thought I was. I researched and read everything I could about being a good lover.

now I was pi$$ed at first because she never told me espically since I would have been happy to do whatever for how ever long it took to give her an orgasm. But I put thoses feelings behind me and started all the new moves i learned and her sex drive came alive like ...WOW

it take a long time to give my wife an orgasm and at first she would stop me because she was embarrassed about it and how messy it can be .....but now she is so glad I learned how to be a good lover.

if you have to ask if she came ....she didn't! and if she didn't she will fake it or lie and say she did so as not to hurt your feelings.

 

[Gaming Your Wife]

Dude,Are you trying to be a hero?What your point?

 

[sweaty teddy]

Dude,Are you trying to be a hero?What your point?

you mught be a poor lover and thats why she don't want to have sex with you. come on 10 min a week and that is going to be good for her, listen I opened up and tried to help I ani't no super hero.

sorry but you soud like a dud in the sack!

 

[aribabe]

Lol, his point is that you may be bad in bed. Which is a very valid possibilty i'd say. Especially sine you're getting so defensive about him even mentioning it as a possibilty.

Women (or men) don't enjoy doing things that aren't pleasurable to them. And if your wife doesn't want to sleep with you, it may very well be because you don't pleasure her well or worse, don't pleasure her at all.

A woman who's only willing to dedicate 10 minutes of her time of of the 112 hours she's awake each week is a woman that is either incredibly unsatisfied or has a terribly low libido (which is unlikely if she's relatively young and healthy). I have a few illnesses but I still manage to get it on with my hubby at least 3 times a week. And that's because he makes it very worth it for me.

All I'm saying is, its very possible that you're just an unsatisfying lover, and it couldn't hurt to look into that.

Dude,Are you trying to be a hero?What your point?

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[donny64]

Lol, his point is that you may be bad in bed. Which is a very valid possibilty i'd say. Especially sine you're getting so defensive about him even mentioning it as a possibilty.

Women (or men) don't enjoy doing things that aren't pleasurable to them. And if your wife doesn't want to sleep with you, it may very well be because you don't pleasure her well or worse, don't pleasure her at all.

A woman who's only willing to dedicate 10 minutes of her time of of the 112 hours she's awake each week is a woman that is either incredibly unsatisfied or has a terribly low libido (which is unlikely if she's relatively young and healthy). I have a few illnesses but I still manage to get it on with my hubby at least 3 times a week. And that's because he makes it very worth it for me.

All I'm saying is, its very possible that you're just an unsatisfying lover, and it couldn't hurt to look into that.


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That's something that every guy should consider when the sex starts dropping off. That, and that he has somehow become less attractive to his wife (too much of a doormat nice guy, too controlling, too jealous, too angry, etc.).

My W was the woman so many men complain about. She admits it. With her ex, towards the last years, if they had sex twice a year, he was lucky. He sucked in bed (all about himself...roll on, get his, roll off) AND he had the "double whammy" of being a drunk jerk.

She said she often wondered what the hell was wrong with her. How could she have NO desire for sex?

Oddly enough, that's not a problem for her now. But then again she orgasms on average 4 or more to my one. I make certain of that! Somehow, I've not once even gotten an offer for pity sex. Nor would I ever accept it.

 

[PHTlump]

you mught be a poor lover and thats why she don't want to have sex with you. come on 10 min a week and that is going to be good for her, listen I opened up and tried to help I ani't no super hero.

sorry but you soud like a dud in the sack!

I think you're projecting Teddy. Just because you were lousy doesn't mean GYW is. We get low desire women and their husbands all the time. And rarely is the issue the husband's performance.

GYW didn't suggest 10 minutes a week because that's all he wants or needs to satisfy himself. Or because he has no interest or ability to satisfy his wife. He suggested it because he thinks that's all his wife will give him without a fight. So, he gets a minimal amount of time and his wife gets out of fighting. It's really nothing new on these boards.

 

[SpinDaddy]

Ya know,I can't believe how on earth how one could live in a relationship without sex and still be kind and considerate to the O/P. Just what the hell has happened to the human race. If we wanted a roommate we would of stayed single. If one person in marriage has a inability to perform,or a unwillingness to correspond sexual with the person they married,Then why don't they raise the white flay and surrender their ring. Maybe I am wrong. But I call B.S. on all the lame excuses for not wanting to per-take in a well balance sexual relationship with your Other.
All you hear is I'am tired ,Sick, Headache,Not tonight,Maybe tomorrow,Later, It all come down to attraction for the other.When the attraction stops so does the sex.I would bet that the L.D. person if seperated would be all over the new person in their life.So why don't they all come clean and just admit they just don't care anymore.
Here's my deal cause I 'am in the same boat.I made a pact with my wife. She could careless for sex. But not my fault???So instead of fighting about it for all these years I said how about I will be the model husband and you give me 10 mins of sex a week. I will not ask for more.So what I get is sex eather once for ten mins. or twice for 5mins.or 3 times a week for 3 mins.she could care less. I am happy and she is happy.I have never been in such a ggood mood.Talk about quickies.Think about it all the troubles are gone. And we love ea other so much. Should of done it years ago.

You're joking -- right?

 

[Holland]

The whole thing just sounds sad. Are you sure this is love for both of you?

You have never been in such a good mood, really? 10 mins of pity sex with my partner would make me miserable. 10 mins a week would not even cover the amount of kissing we do.

 

[RClawson]

Sorry but I cannot relate. I can get a good 10 minutes with a righty or a lefty and some Jergens. I am interested in intimacy. Emotional and Physical pure and simple. Physical is on the way back to normal. Emotional has a long way to come and it has to long term because the physical is just not enough for me.

 

[Michie]

His wife could be going through some period if her where intimacy and sex is not tops for her. It happens.

And instead of nagging and making his wide feel like **** he purposed a solution tha t
works for them. Good for them
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[Catherine602]

Ten minutes! Come on. You need to renegotiate more time. If she does not care then why not an 45 min a week. Thats not much more time and it gives you both more time for skin to skin contact.

Maybe her hormones will kick in and she will care. I think a model husband is worth his weight in gold. But that's me. If you love each other why not talk about more time.

Although I think it is sad that it has come to this, I am glad it works for you. Make sure to be affectionate at other times if she likes that. She knows it won't lead to sex. But you never know.
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[MEM2020]

If this was the most my wife could manage for me - 10 minutes a week - I would make some major adjustments.

That means she really dislikes your touch.

 

[MEM2020]

Michie
You must have partners who are either not worth much or really spineless.

This isn't about it not being a priority for the LD partner.

 

[sweaty teddy]

I think you're projecting Teddy. Just because you were lousy doesn't mean GYW is. We get low desire women and their husbands all the time. And rarely is the issue the husband's performance.

GYW didn't suggest 10 minutes a week because that's all he wants or needs to satisfy himself. Or because he has no interest or ability to satisfy his wife. He suggested it because he thinks that's all his wife will give him without a fight. So, he gets a minimal amount of time and his wife gets out of fighting. It's really nothing new on these boards.

just throwing it out there. its worth upping your game in the bedroom.

worked for me. and I not ashamed to admit it. I'm confident and secure in my love making. and my wife is more receptive scince I did a little research.

 

[that_girl]

Wow. This makes me sad. 10 minutes? I'd rather masturbate.