VintageRetro's story is here. I'm pretty sure NLLH's was removed due to his request.How/where do I find these stories? There really haven’t been any consequences for him. I have basically shut down. I think I am in the “depression” portion of the acceptance process now.
He has now read the book (we both have) and was already doing basically everything in it to help me heal, by his own instincts, before he even read it. He does care, but it is so hard to believe that he loves me or ever did.
Reality is hitting me HARD. How little he cared for me to be able to do this. How selfish he is and has been for most of our marriage.
I am just so, so, horribly, horribly sad.
I am certain I will never be able to forget, and I do NOT think I will EVER be able to forgive this. I am not sure what that means for me moving forward.
You will never forget. Its something you need to (eventually) learn to live with (but that doesn't mean he has to stay in your life).
Forgiveness is needed if you decide to stay together though. Some people can forgive, some cannot. Neither is right or wrong. It may be too early for you to know if you can forgive him or not. It's only been a month, right? At that point I was going back and forth on reconciliation or divorce every 5 minutes and forgiveness certainly wasn't happening.