We have been married for almost 10 years, we have a lovely 7yr old daughter and I love my wife. Our marriage has been rocky at times, but overall had great times together over the last many years. Our sex life is good (few times per month after 13 yrs together) and by most people's standards we have a very rich life - large house, 2 cars (mercedes), daughter in private school, global travel, no debts/mortgages etc. And yes, I'm a 'good listener', only occasionally go out with friends (once every 2-3 weeks), help my daughter with her homework, don't drink much, don't gamble, am not aggressive etc. I'm not perfect, but am a good father, husband and provider etc.
However, as the years go by, my wife is becoming more bitter and angry. We have arguments few times a week, over something petty like me forgetting a grocery or getting stuck in traffic and being 15 mins late. She gets abusive, she really has anger control issues and it's getting to the point where I can't handle it anymore.
Trying to discover the source of her 'unhappiness', her latest explanation is that she's frustrated that she's financially 'dependent' on me... ? Well, she doesn't work, but she has many credit cards and we have shared bank accounts and i never restrain any of her spending, which for many women is ideal, but not for her...
Digging deeper, i believe the issue is her background. While I come from a middle class family and money was never a topic, she comes from a poor background and worked her way up (she held good jobs and made good money in the past) and there is this constant 'anxiety' in her. The paradox is, the richer we get over the years, it seems the worse it becomes and i'm really worried about the future. Knowing how she was raised, anger and conflict was the default for her and after many years I can see that this will always stay with her.
I'm considering divorce, but it breaks my heart to do this to my daughter and the effect it will have on her, as we have a very close bond. I'm mostly staying together for her and waiting for things to improve, but doubt if they will or might get worse. At the moment, she's about the only thing holding me back...
However, as the years go by, my wife is becoming more bitter and angry. We have arguments few times a week, over something petty like me forgetting a grocery or getting stuck in traffic and being 15 mins late. She gets abusive, she really has anger control issues and it's getting to the point where I can't handle it anymore.
Trying to discover the source of her 'unhappiness', her latest explanation is that she's frustrated that she's financially 'dependent' on me... ? Well, she doesn't work, but she has many credit cards and we have shared bank accounts and i never restrain any of her spending, which for many women is ideal, but not for her...
Digging deeper, i believe the issue is her background. While I come from a middle class family and money was never a topic, she comes from a poor background and worked her way up (she held good jobs and made good money in the past) and there is this constant 'anxiety' in her. The paradox is, the richer we get over the years, it seems the worse it becomes and i'm really worried about the future. Knowing how she was raised, anger and conflict was the default for her and after many years I can see that this will always stay with her.
I'm considering divorce, but it breaks my heart to do this to my daughter and the effect it will have on her, as we have a very close bond. I'm mostly staying together for her and waiting for things to improve, but doubt if they will or might get worse. At the moment, she's about the only thing holding me back...