My backstory:
I have been married 21 years and have 3 young kids. Sex has always been good although I have always felt it lacked an emotional element. I have always struggled to feel connected to my wife but we have had sex regularly and that has helped. We have have taken off of sex for a while and it has helped me to see the marriage more clearly. I find it hard to feel connected with my wife emotionally. When we have a an argument and settle it I feel so much better. These are the best times to me because it is at these moments I feel our hearts are in sync. She is not affectionate and does not speak of her love for me ever. I could take the no sex if she wanted to cuddle but that is not there. I will readily admit that I have not handled her well through the years. She is quite fragile and have been not soft and gentle enough.
Anyone else have a situation like this? What have you done? I guess I have to consider myself too dependent on her actions to feel good. I feel so alone sometimes and get anxious when I feel disconnected.
I have been married 21 years and have 3 young kids. Sex has always been good although I have always felt it lacked an emotional element. I have always struggled to feel connected to my wife but we have had sex regularly and that has helped. We have have taken off of sex for a while and it has helped me to see the marriage more clearly. I find it hard to feel connected with my wife emotionally. When we have a an argument and settle it I feel so much better. These are the best times to me because it is at these moments I feel our hearts are in sync. She is not affectionate and does not speak of her love for me ever. I could take the no sex if she wanted to cuddle but that is not there. I will readily admit that I have not handled her well through the years. She is quite fragile and have been not soft and gentle enough.
Anyone else have a situation like this? What have you done? I guess I have to consider myself too dependent on her actions to feel good. I feel so alone sometimes and get anxious when I feel disconnected.