I am having a hard time accepting my fiancées sexual past. I have known her since I was 18 and she was 19. I fell for her straight away but we didn’t get together until she was 32. A month ago I asked how many guys she had had sex with. After a few days she told me it was 10. Most of them were guys she was having a relationship with but a couple were one night stands. I was shocked and thought this seemed a lot. I had only been with 2 girls before my fiancée. I find it really hard to deal with this and feel physically sick whenever I think about it. It has also affected me sexually as I can’t help but think of her with other guys when we are in bed. I know this is stupid, immature, jealous and selfish but I can’t help it. I was shocked by her number of sexual partners because I thought she was more pure and classy. I have tried to be rational and tell myself that 10 guys in 15 years is not a lot or promiscuous and if I had a one night stand why shouldn’t she. She said that some of them were just flings and weren’t serious and didn’t mean anything. I know she means that they don’t mean as much as I do but the thought of her having meaningless sex and getting picked up for one night stands really upsets me. I can’t get my mind off this topic and I’ve become sulky and introspective. I don’t want to discuss it with my fiancée as she’ll get offended and think that I consider her a loose woman– I don’t, but I don’t know how to make these feelings go away. She has been totally honest and trusting with me and I feel terrible for having a problem. I want to be able to accept her past and not feel upset when I think of it.