Hello - I am new here but have felt connected to so many threads I have read. I have been married for over 30 yrs - this past summer my husband drops the bomb - he is not happy, has been having affairs (aka 'adventures') for 7 + years and thinks he wants out. We went to one counselling session. Tried to get back into the marriage - now he says it was only temporary. Our children are grown with families. I am dealing with a lot of anger and hurt. We are still in the same house - different bedrooms. We work different shifts so it is easy not to see each other much. It is comlpicated in that my Dad is going through chemo/radiation for cancer and my Mom has heart issues - both in their 80's. They love my husband and he is very helpful with them. They know we have had problems - but I have spared them the details at this point. My question is how do you go about unconnecting from 30 yrs of marriage? This is not where I thought I would be at this point in my life. I look back and wonder where the signs were. Most people thought, as I did, that we had a great marriage. I sensed things changing earlier this year - not as connected - but never did I dream that he has been unfaithful all these years. How do I handle this?