[RealLength7]

Hello all,

I have been curious how people normally go about finding new things to try in the bedroom. Do you read articles about new sex things and want to try it out and research it? Or do you hear about things from friends, tv, etc? I know a lot of people probably get ideas generally from watching porn which is where a lot of my things I want to experience come from. Those of you who don't watch porn, where do you find new things to try? Do you ever seek out new things to try or is it just more when you come across something that piques your interest in your day to day life?

 

[Quad73]

Wildlife documentaries.

 

[Julie's Husband]

From the nice young ladies (I'm 77) when my wife and I visit the local sex shop. Actually, better was years ago when we used to drop by Good Vibrations right around the corner from PIXAR studios in Emeryville, CA.

Also from pubmed.gov studies on male sexual function.

 

[Lady2019]

One time with EX we decided to try something we seen on a porn video. It ended with me falling off him/the bed and grabbing his man hood to try and save myself on the way down. He had a bruise penis and I had a concussion

I’ve since concluded porn gives an unrealistic expectation of what is possible with sex, I mean they only need to hold the scene for a few moments 😅

Sex shops are amazing for finding something new to try and for being quickly educated on things you’d prefer not to experience.

 

[Married but Happy]

We've done our reading, and we've had enough partners to know what we like, what we don't, and what limits we want to have in place. Sometimes we'll spontaneously come up with a variant, or read about one that still falls within our limits. For years we were swingers, and learned a lot of fun variations on things we already liked; new people often do old things in new (to us) ways. Some of the best new variations required an extra person, though, so those won't be achievable for most!

 

[MIB]

She just grabs random stuff in the heat of the moment and yells, “PUT THIS IN!” Whatever she likes goes into the “sex” drawer.

That reminds me, I need to get me a new water bottle. And a new CPAP machine.

 

[MaleVoice#2]

Personal "brainstorming", usually when I go to bed (weeks in advance, not just before) or in the morning (still in bed) when T is very high...

But sometimes those ideas don't seem so good or applicable once the sun has risen 😅

 

[RealLength7]

One time with EX we decided to try something we seen on a porn video. It ended with me falling off him/the bed and grabbing his man hood to try and save myself on the way down. He had a bruise penis and I had a concussion

I’ve since concluded porn gives an unrealistic expectation of what is possible with sex, I mean they only need to hold the scene for a few moments 😅

Sex shops are amazing for finding something new to try and for being quickly educated on things you’d prefer not to experience.

Oh yeah that a lot of the unrealistic stuff you have to be cautious about. I mostly just enjoy amateur content anymore.

We haven't been to a sex shop since probably the beginning of our marriage. I asked her a while back when we were driving by one and I was promptly given a no so I think they might be out of the question at least for now.

 

[RealLength7]

She just grabs random stuff in the heat of the moment and yells, “PUT THIS IN!” Whatever she likes goes into the “sex” drawer.

That reminds me, I need to get me a new water bottle. And a new CPAP machine.

That sounds like a fun time. Reminds me of an older coworker who told me his lady friend had him use a vacuum handle on her in the heat of the moment and all I could think was how unsanitary that would be.

 

[RealLength7]

Personal "brainstorming", usually when I go to bed (weeks in advance, not just before) or in the morning (still in bed) when T is very high...

But sometimes those ideas don't seem so good or applicable once the sun has rised 😅

I have tried this but I'm such a visual person I usually want to see it played out in a similar fashion to really wrap my mind around it.

 

[RealLength7]

We've done our reading, and we've had enough partners to know what we like, what we don't, and what limits we want to have in place. Sometimes we'll spontaneously come up with a variant, or read about one that still falls within our limits. For years we were swingers, and learned a lot of fun variations on things we already liked; new people often do old things in new (to us) ways. Some of the best new variations required an extra person, though, so those won't be achievable for most!

An ex of mine's parents were swingers. I had only heard of swinging at this point and never applied how it worked in real life to that point. They were nice people and I met some of their swinging partners. I find the concept to be so fascinating but I don't think it ever work out well for me. Maybe with someone else I'd be more open to trying.

 

[MIB]

That sounds like a fun time. Reminds me of an older coworker who told me his lady friend had him use a vacuum handle on her in the heat of the moment and all I could think was how unsanitary that would be.

Man, imagine if he turned it on. That would suck!

 

[RealLength7]

Man, imagine if he turned it on. That would suck!

I had never asked nor wanted to know if he used the other end on himself. Interesting version of a threesome.

 

[Diana7]

We never do porn, use your imagination.

 

[Julie's Husband]

One time with EX we decided to try something we seen on a porn video. It ended with me falling off him/the bed and grabbing his man hood to try and save myself on the way down. He had a bruise penis and I had a concussion

I’ve since concluded porn gives an unrealistic expectation of what is possible with sex, I mean they only need to hold the scene for a few moments 😅

Sex shops are amazing for finding something new to try and for being quickly educated on things you’d prefer not to experience.

And it is fun to see young ladies dealing with a 74 year old man and his wife with questions about sex toys that might help continue being active while castrate. Precious. 😉

 

[Julie's Husband]

For the most part I find porn boring. At least the scripted stuff. I don't like the stereotyped actors and the scripts are boringly predictable. Maybe well done home videos, but those are few.

For the most part imagination has been more interesting. Reality is definitely top of my list.

 

[Personal]

Hello all,

I have been curious how people normally go about finding new things to try in the bedroom. Do you read articles about new sex things and want to try it out and research it? Or do you hear about things from friends, tv, etc? I know a lot of people probably get ideas generally from watching porn which is where a lot of my things I want to experience come from. Those of you who don't watch porn, where do you find new things to try? Do you ever seek out new things to try or is it just more when you come across something that piques your interest in your day to day life?

Well I watch, read and look (‘cause it’s more than movies) at pornography. Yet new things to try, come from many sources.

Sometimes it’s just some idea that pops up in the moment 🙈, or it’s from some academic study on sex, or from a novel, or book or essay about historical sexual practices, or digitised archival court or church documents on medieval or other historic sex prosecutions.

Discussion forums, on Reddit, FetLife or others. Twitter as well, since it is filled with smutty fun.

Sex dreams is another plentiful source of inspiration as well. Plus some pornography, and not forgetting my bookshelf full of books in our bedroom, filled with lots of historic and contemporary pornography and erotica.

Plus memories of lots of things shared with others.

 

[TinyTbone]

I've done reading, shared with the wife. Also I was prolific with women before meeting my wife, so very little i hadn't tried.
We've asked at the sex shops. Very recently she's finally opened up to new things. She's a very vanilla woman. Lots of hagups from early religious dogma.

 

[StevieSFV]

For the most part I find porn boring. At least the scripted stuff. I don't like the stereotyped actors and the scripts are boringly predictable. Maybe well done home videos, but those are few.

For the most part imagination has been more interesting. Reality is definitely top of my list.

Inspired by your profile pic: I knew someone that scored those 70's porn flicks. He was given 8 hours of it. It took him 8 hours to do it. Basement funk!

 

[Julie's Husband]

Inspired by your profile pic: I knew someone that scored those 70's porn flicks. He was given 8 hours of it. It took him 8 hours to do it. Basement funk!

Hm. Try while castrate. Without a partner orgasm may take up towards an hour of constant stimulation. Part of this is because without testosterone all sex drive is in the mind and it is easy to repeatedly get distracted.