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First, I want to say that I'm not looking for sympathy but would like input on what I can say/do to help when this happens.
I had a break in meetings yesterday and invited my BH to have lunch together (no baby so just us) and spend a little time together.
As it often does, the topic of our damaged marriage and my EA come up. He talked about how he just feels like this was an example to him why he can't trust anyone and that trusting someone, even me, just leads to hurt and pain.
Background for him, he grew up with a very physically abusive mother (his dad died when he was only 4 years old), went into Spec Ops in the Army so shutting down emotionally is something he's very good at doing.
I apologized again and told him I'll continue to do what I can to help rebuild that. I was even able to get clearance to remove any of the confidential work applications from my phone so he can access my work phone now as well. He has access to email/FB/etc.
What else can I do to help him?
I had a break in meetings yesterday and invited my BH to have lunch together (no baby so just us) and spend a little time together.
As it often does, the topic of our damaged marriage and my EA come up. He talked about how he just feels like this was an example to him why he can't trust anyone and that trusting someone, even me, just leads to hurt and pain.
Background for him, he grew up with a very physically abusive mother (his dad died when he was only 4 years old), went into Spec Ops in the Army so shutting down emotionally is something he's very good at doing.
I apologized again and told him I'll continue to do what I can to help rebuild that. I was even able to get clearance to remove any of the confidential work applications from my phone so he can access my work phone now as well. He has access to email/FB/etc.
What else can I do to help him?