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How many of you believe that marriage is forever? For better for worse, in sickness and in health? That nothing will end your marriage unless your spouse leaves you?
 

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I believe in Biblical Marriage. Like Moses and his two wives. Jacob and his two wives and their handmaidens. King David and his 35 wives. Solomon and his 700 wives and 300 concubines. Abraham and his wife and concubines. You know, like the Bible says. Is that traditional enough?
 

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I feel what you described. I feel my wedding vows are sacred and that I will only have one wife... If she leaves there can be other girlfriends but only 1 wife for me.
 

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I have two deal breakers: infidelity and abuse. Barring those, divorce would be my very last option to deal with marital issues. It takes two to make a marriage work, though. I refuse to be miserable in this life. If my marriage reached an impasse, and all reasonable avenues had been exhausted to move forward together, then I could go forward alone.

I do think many people divorce at the first hint that their marriages or their partners are not perfect. And that's sad, really. They pursue personal happiness to the detriment of everyone around them, looking for external validation, when in reality, true happiness and contentment starts on the inside. If your not happy with yourself, any happiness you find with others will be fleeting.
 

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Only one thing would make me end my marriage; abuse of me or my children. And I'm not excluding infidelity.
 

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To me I always hope that my marriage is a forever thing and I go into it fully planning to do that, but I am a firm believer in that sometimes people change or grow apart and you don't always get that happily ever after you were seeking. And I know of several couples who are currently happily married but didn't get it right until the second or even THIRD try.

And these are all legit reasons for me to end a marriage or want out:

- physical abuse
- infidelity
- constant verbal abuse or total disrespect
- sexual abuse against a child
 

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I believe in Biblical Marriage. Like Moses and his two wives. Jacob and his two wives and their handmaidens. King David and his 35 wives. Solomon and his 700 wives and 300 concubines. Abraham and his wife and concubines. You know, like the Bible says. Is that traditional enough?
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It does say in the bible that a man can have many wives but only if he can provide for all of them. There was usually a good reason for that though such as the woman was unable to conceive. They didn't do it just so they could sleep with more than one woman. What I mean by traditional marriage view is the staying together no matter what unless they are abusive or cheating.
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To me I always hope that my marriage is a forever thing and I go into it fully planning to do that, but I am a firm believer in that sometimes people change or grow apart and you don't always get that happily ever after you were seeking. And I know of several couples who are currently happily married but didn't get it right until the second or even THIRD try.

And these are all legit reasons for me to end a marriage or want out:

- physical abuse
- infidelity
- constant verbal abuse or total disrespect
- sexual abuse against a child
But who or where does it say that you're supposed to live happily ever after? I personally don't believe there is such a thing.
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I agree with you Wanting A Strong Marriage. Too many couples divorce over things that are just part of marriage eg arguments, illness, financial difficulty, etc. What happened to for better or worse? People change too... Everyone changes... In my opinion that's not a reason to divorce. My husband has changed but I still love him. There's no such thing as a fairy tale marriage.
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But who or where does it say that you're supposed to live happily ever after? I personally don't believe there is such a thing.
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Well we all hope to live "happily ever after" and there are some couples that do, but it's getting more and more rare these days.
 

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It does say in the bible that a man can have many wives but only if he can provide for all of them. There was usually a good reason for that though such as the woman was unable to conceive. They didn't do it just so they could sleep with more than one woman. What I mean by traditional marriage view is the staying together no matter what unless they are abusive or cheating.
Sign me up. I won't be divorcing any of them in the absence of porneia.
 

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you have to be compatible

infidelity
abuse

^^ are not the only two reasons i would leave a spouse. If i was married to a selfish, materialistic individual i would leave. I have a great detest for those who are quick to indulge in narcissism, hedonism. and perform dexterously dangerous acts such as self destruction.

(in my opinion) that fact that so many people TRY to make there marriage work WHEN it clearly will not. Is the reason so many people die unhappy or suffer YEARS of their one life they have being unhappy suffering. Depression and questioning their life and "what they did to deserve this" is what happens to such a large percentage of the population. A good portion of people cheat (imo) precisely because they are in a failed marriage but for whatever reason they decide to try and stick it out only for them to be too afraid to call it quits they than take refuge in the arms of another. The affair however only adds more destruction and turmoil to their already sad life it leads them down a path of more suffering they are unlikely to ever see the light.
 

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I have two deal breakers: infidelity and abuse. Barring those, divorce would be my very last option to deal with marital issues. It takes two to make a marriage work, though. I refuse to be miserable in this life. If my marriage reached an impasse, and all reasonable avenues had been exhausted to move forward together, then I could go forward alone.

I do think many people divorce at the first hint that their marriages or their partners are not perfect. And that's sad, really. They pursue personal happiness to the detriment of everyone around them, looking for external validation, when in reality, true happiness and contentment starts on the inside. If your not happy with yourself, any happiness you find with others will be fleeting.
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