Some more info would be good.So I've been scoping out this forum for a few months now and I think this would be a great place to ask this question. Suffice it to say, bedroom troubles with my wife are nothing new. She is super low drive and I think that I am pretty normal drive. So over the past 15 years we've gone from once a month to none for the last year. So a big blowout happens since I am fairly surly a lot of the time and she says to me toward the end of the conversation/fight that its not her fault that she doesn't want sex its just how she is, but she says that she will sleep with me so I will stop being grouchy. I am not sure I should accept this. Its pity sex. It would be like sleeping with a doll. And all through it I would know that she really doesn't want this. So I tell her this and she thinks I am being too harsh and that I should just accept the sex and be happy. But I wont be. Just like o haven't been happy for a long time.
How long have the two of you been married.
Do you have any children? If so how many and age range
What was sex like when you first married?
Is your wife a SAHM or does she work outside the home?
It’s perfectly normal to want your spouse to actually be engaged in sex and not act like a blowup doll.Do you think its unreasonable to be married to someone who a actually wants to be there when sleeping with you?
Makes sense. What she is doing is a huge rejection of you. Who would want that?I would just rather not sleep with her ever again.
You are not a sex fiend. She is being unreasonable.I'm not gonna be made to feel like I am some sort of sex fiend, there for just my pleasure. Any thoughts?
You are going to have to have a heart-to-heart with her. Either she work with you to get a reasonable sex life, 2xs a week, or you will divorce her.
This means that she has to see doctors to make sure that there are no medical issues, her hormones levels are ok, etc.
She needs to go to marriage counseling with you. The marriage counselor needs to be a sex therapist as well.
There are things that can make a person not want to have sex. The thing is that these need to be addressed. They can be anything from hormone imbalances to her not having her needs met. But it’s unreasonable for her to expect you to stay married and then not be willing to work on this. And the BOTH of you have to work on it.