You're so right. I'm not proud to admit that I've become very controlling when it comes to this issue I'm working on it but it's a very much a work in progress. I know 100% that my controlling behaviour stems from the sheer anxiety that this causes me. My concerns are valid though - my husband called off his engagement to his first wife and changed his will (they were living together de facto) after pressure from his parents. They obviously reconciled and went on to marry but the damage was done.His issues aside, for you personally, I would suggest you do some introspection into why you let them bother you. Almost every time, it's an insecurity/low self esteem issue. And that's something you can work on. If you truly love yourself, you can laugh at their pathetic attempts to drag you down.
It's almost comical - hubby lets me know he's heading to the pub after work on a Friday night and will be home late and I'm all "Have a great time honey!". If he were to say he was going to his parents I'd freak out completely hahaha. Ridiculous.
I love my husband so very much, he is my world and I would never want to or intentionally cause him any hurt. I think I need to drop my end of the rope so to speak. My resentment is at least something that I can do something about. His, I cannot.