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What do I bring to the table? I'm
* a 19 year old, Cambodian (12.5% Chinese and 12.5% East Indian) male
*A student at a JC with four semesters (includes summer) completed, as well as 30% of the units that I need to transfer
*2.7 GPA SO FAR
*Average intelligence
*5.75, 155
*Body fat percentage of 14%
*Loves sea life and reptiles
*Mild mannered, nice guy
*Doesn't take crap
*Doesn't drink
*Doesn't smoke
*NOT interested in porn
*Likes writing songs (I used to try to rap, and don't regret it, but found out it wasn't for me)
*I'm a loyal guy
*If you get to know me, I can be pretty funny
Oh, and I've yet to even have a date, but have been complimented on my looks, including by women a year to two older
Givens:
*Doesn’t dress like a guy (eg there are SOME females who dress like guys pretty much all the time. What guy would want their lady to buy shirts and shorts from the guy section anyways? Eg Collared south pole shirts)
*(This will be SO awkward to say) NO GUY BODY PARTS! (we’re talking about a woman here, not a hermaphrodite anyways)
*Attractive face without makeup, even slightly.
*For her natural attractiveness to withstand the test of time. (I’ve seen many women, celebrities included, in their late 30s-even late 40s who are attractive without makeup)
*Clean of diseases (I would NOT want to have sex with a woman with STDs or even more dreadful, HIV)
*ONLY exception for being arrested is assault (Of the near couple hundred women I know personally, only two have had any arrests; one of them I don’t get along with)
*Not have a guy name (Names like Terry or Taylor I don’t mind, but I wouldn’t want to be with a woman with a normal guy name like Kevin or Matthew. Of the NEAR thousands of females I know/know of, including celebrities, only two have normal guy names)
If I had to pick 10 qualities in a woman:
*Caucasian blonde/brunette (Actually, I'm open to any race, but let's just say blonde or brunette)
*”5 4-5 7” (a few inches taller or shorter is ok)
*Waist size five to eight (nowhere above size 16 though)
*Likes sea life or reptiles (both are nice though)
*NO cheating
*NO smoking or drugs
*No drinking (if she does, no more than three shots)
*Born 1991 (I’d love one born a year before me. I’m open to anywhere between 1991-1993, but I’m hoping for 1991)
*mild mannered, averagely intelligent sweetheart (Ok if not mild mannered, an averagely intelligent kind person)
*Doesn’t mind having a kid when I want (about six years from now)
*She doesn't HAVE to be, but would it be too much to add for her to be a vegetarian/pescetarian (eating only fish and animal products as protein. I saw ten, but this would be eleven. For the record, I’m pescetarian)
Those ten plus these:
*Open minded.
*Can eat A LOT (eg a whole box of Little Caesar’s pizza in a meal) and maintain her figure (Doesn't have to though, but it would be nice)
*Won’t mind living where I want (Anywhere in South Oregon or CA within a half hour at the longest from the beach would be nice. However, I’d rate the city that I live in a 4.5/10, with 5 being average. Anywhere that I’d consider a five in South Oregon or CA with a low chance of crime or earthquakes, as well as other natural disasters, but the beach would be NICE, especially around Pismo)
*Is neutral (if doesn’t dislike) Twilight/movies or any artists (eg Drake, Lil Wayne) that I dislike.
*IF she does like something(s) that I dislike, she must have the courtesy to change the station to something we agree on while we drive or be ok with me not wanting to watch something I dislike with her. I could care less if she listens to them in her iPod or watches something I dislike. IF I have to watch/listen to something I dislike, she had better return something (eg a romantic date)
*Is willing to do domestic duties like cook or clean (I will help too)
*Has a job making at least 30G after five years (must have the job at least a half year before we have a kid)
*Average-above average sized “assets.” (If it’s smaller, I can look past that; the face matters most)
*Doesn’t mind getting married the Saturday before Valentine’s Day 2018 at the Monterey Bay Aquarium (between 2018-2020, but no later)
*Fun person to be around (eg sense of humor, interesting topics, etc)
*No dry sense of humor. (Of the few hundred women that I know, including one that I don’t get along with, only five have a dry sense of humor. However, if need be, this is something I will accommodate to)
*Never have been/is not a *****
*Never had sex with anymore than two other guys
*I would like if she likes the sports teams/fighters I like. If not, we CAN look past that. (In teams, I LOVE the Raiders and Warriors, and also like the Niners, A's, Giants, and Sharks. My favorite fighters that I like fighting right now are Aakiyama, GSP, Wanderlei, Shogun, Cain, and Kongo)
*not be muscular. (tone is ok, but muscular would be ugly)
 

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Dude...you're 19...you've got plenty of time to find mrs. perfect. This isn't the point in your life you should be so dead set on finding your soul mate.

Besides that, you have an awfully long list there. Consider rather or not you're willing to do the same things you require of her.
 

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I know my list is long, but how would you say it is overall: good, ok, slightly too much, or too much? I have some specific, reasonable requests (eg no drugs, courtesy, etc)
 

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I know my list is long, but how would you say it is overall: good, ok, slightly too much, or too much? I have some specific, reasonable requests (eg no drugs, courtesy, etc)
I think it's pretty particular. You might find that list getting a bit smaller as you get older.. i.e. the year she's born?
 

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I think it's pretty particular. You might find that list getting a bit smaller as you get older.. i.e. the year she's born?
Sounds like it's a good list then? If not, what about ok? Throw in there for her to NEVER have been the opposite gender (I've yet to meet anybody with a sex change of the MANY MANY people I personally have met or know)
 

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In my opinion you have some good things there that aren't unreasonable at all but at the same time some seem to be a bit much.

For instance:
*Born 1991 (I’d love one born a year before me. I’m open to anywhere between 1991-1993, but I’m hoping for 1991
*Has a job making at least 30G after five years (must have the job at least a half year before we have a kid)
*Never had sex with anymore than two other guys

These things are going to cause you to miss out on someone who would otherwise be perfect for you.

Are you willing to do the same on this one?:
*IF she does like something(s) that I dislike, she must have the courtesy to change the station to something we agree on while we drive or be ok with me not wanting to watch something I dislike with her. I could care less if she listens to them in her iPod or watches something I dislike. IF I have to watch/listen to something I dislike, she had better return something (eg a romantic date)
 

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This one is unreasonable as well:
*For her natural attractiveness to withstand the test of time. (I’ve seen many women, celebrities included, in their late 30s-even late 40s who are attractive without makeup)

Everyone ages, you included, and unless you're willing to put a LOT of money into plastic surgery you need to get over the holly wood ideal. Celebrities look good that old because they can afford plastic surgery. You're not going to look as good in 20 years either.

You seem to be putting a LOT of emphasis on looks.
 

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Sounds like it's a good list then? If not, what about ok? Throw in there for her to NEVER have been the opposite gender (I've yet to meet anybody with a sex change of the MANY MANY people I personally have met or know)
I think it's pretty normal to think about what we'd like to have in a partner some day.

However, if you're thinking about it to the extent that you're excluding transgendered people that you haven't ever even met.....you need to get outside. Go see the sun. Go where actual, real, live people are and have a meal, dance, play a game, see a movie.....
 

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Sounds like it's a good list then? If not, what about ok? Throw in there for her to NEVER have been the opposite gender (I've yet to meet anybody with a sex change of the MANY MANY people I personally have met or know)
I'd drop the name thing.. ever heard of Taylor Swift? Maybe she's not your type though..
 

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I think it's pretty normal to think about what we'd like to have in a partner some day.

However, if you're thinking about it to the extent that you're excluding transgendered people that you haven't ever even met.....you need to get outside. Go see the sun. Go where actual, real, live people are and have a meal, dance, play a game, see a movie.....
I'm curious as to why you said excluding transgendered people instead of just people? He's also entirely excluding women he's never met so why the emphasis on transgrandered people?
 

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I'm curious as to why you said excluding transgendered people instead of just people? He's also entirely excluding women he's never met so why the emphasis on transgrandered people?
Mostly because it struck me as such an extreme outlier in the probablities of ANY potential dating pool. I know that I personally am the QUEEN of lists and bullet points and have at least a couple of decades of day dreaming about The Perfect Guy under my belt. I completely understand blonde/brunette; tall/short; older/younger; job/kids/music kinds of preferences and probably made much longer lists than his back in the day...

But when MrK1992 said:
Throw in there for her to NEVER have been the opposite gender (I've yet to meet anybody with a sex change of the MANY MANY people I personally have met or know)
it just seemed like there has been WAY too much time to think about scenarios that haven't even been encountered.

Clearly the whole list is naive at best....but when you're so engrossed in making your list of requirements for the perfect mate that you're getting THAT random, it's time to log off and find some real people.

He might as well have said "She can NEVER have been president of the Hells Angels" for all of his self-professed actual exposure to transgendered singles....it just struck me as funny/odd/sad (all at the same time).
 
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