All i can say is im sorry. And believe it or not i have to believe things will get better. Theres a saying. Sometimes we dont get what we want, we get what we need. I have to believe this is true.
He's saying he isn't sure he ever loved you in order to justify what he's done. It's an easier pill to swallow than 'I couldn't be bothered to work on our problems'Thanks for the responses. I read many stories on here and sympathize with the pain that others are going through, too. It is really, really rough. Being with the same person for 20 years is a long time and I'm proud that after a few failed attempts in the beginning, I am doing the 180. It doesn't seem to have any effect on him though, but I am truly now doing it for me.
I often wonder how he can not miss me or miss us after all of the time we were together. I find myself wanting to talk to him about my day or tell him about a movie I watched, or something that happened with a friend of mine, but I know that I can't do those things any more.
I think the worst part for me is how he has chosen to re-write the history of our marriage. He tells his family and friends how difficult I was, actually "impossible" to live with. He says that he isn't sure that he ever really loved me and that things have been bad in our marriage for a long time. I do not believe that any of these things are true and it hurts that he would try to take away all of the good that we had.
Thanks again for the support.
The rewriting of history happens with a lot of them... they need to justify to themselves why its ok just leave. Like the others said it will get better in time.I think the worst part for me is how he has chosen to re-write the history of our marriage. He tells his family and friends how difficult I was, actually "impossible" to live with. He says that he isn't sure that he ever really loved me and that things have been bad in our marriage for a long time. I do not believe that any of these things are true and it hurts that he would try to take away all of the good that we had.
Thanks again for the support.