I have been married to a tattoo artist for 7 years now. Things have been rocky for the entire marriage and it feels that we have fallen out of love. I'm not sure if we are still in the learning curves of marriage, or if this relationship is actually doomed.
Here are a few of the issues:
I feel that I lack attention from him. I don’t get the hugs and affection from him that I would like, or that I would picture a happy marriage to be. I’m scared that my expectations may be unrealistic for a marriage.
i.e.: random sex, random displays of affection, kissing, romantic settings, celebrations of anniversaries, sweet nothings just to save he’s thinking of me, text/call once during the work day just to touch base, help around the house (everything, including turning on the heater for the season and yard things, are left to me and me alone), etc.
Porn became an issue in our marriage, not because I don’t approve it within us together, but because he was only doing it alone. He’s made it a point to still have magazines no matter how it makes me feel. I don’t want to have an issue towards those items, but there’s something about how he makes me feel about myself that doesn’t let me be comfortable with him and those items. As a result, I started feeling awkward toward even his “likes” on facebook of half-naked women.
I feel that as a married couple with no kids, we should be having the time of our lives. However, we have not done anything worth recognizing and our sex life has come down to maybe 1-2 times every two weeks.
Distance has grown in our relationship. After 7 years, shouldn't we have a closer relationship? Is it normal for a marriage to go through a stage of not being in "like" of each other?
We have been discussing divorce, but no firm answer has been made. I'm on the fence about it because I care for him, but like I told him, I feel that we stay together out of comfort.
Need advice, please help. . . I'm confused.