Ive been married for 21 months and Im ready to leave it all behind. We dated for 9 yr but ddnt marry because we both had other children from previous relationships and felt it would be easier to wait until the kids got older to marry. Although we had 3 children betwn 18-20, only my 20yr old finished high school and went to college. His two teens dropped out and decided they no longer want to live with their mom. Instead they want to move into our house and he thinks that I am supposed to convert my daughters bedroom that she comes home from college to every summer, into a shared room. Not bcuz they have no place to go but bcuz they wanna be here. All day...eating up everything, running up every bill, while my daughter works 2 jobs and takes 2 summer classes. When asked why he hasnt made them take a GED course, his response is that they're grownups and he cant force them. Also he is not the best provider. We both work long hours and make similiar pay but he comes home and sleeps and Im left to care for the house and our small son that we have together. He will even delegate errands that he needs to do for his adult children bcuz neither of them drive. I have made an agreement that we split the bills 50/50 but most of the time, he never has his half and acts like he's jealous bcuz I have money left over after bills and he doesnt. It seems like he purposely sabotages everything I do to make extra money or makes up things that he has to pay so that I will have to cover more expenses than him. I really feel like no one has benefited from this marriage but him and his adult kids bcuz Im always miserable. When he gives me his half of the bill money, he borrows nearly half of it back for gas and lunch by mid month. When i complain he tries to put me down and make it seem like Im a bad wife and shows favoritism to my biological kids. He does not require his ex to be a good parent at all, he relies solely on me to basically re-raise his children eventhough they are now adults.