[FromNeptune]

Andrea Bocelli is my wife's favorite vocalist. He is coming to Houston Nov 28-our 48th wedding anniversary. The tickets are too high for me to afford but I was successful in contacting a person close to the Bocelli organization and because it is our 48 wedding anniversary we are being given free tickets on the ground level. What a treat!

Here comes the but-For the last 20 years our marriage has been very rocky and hurting. We are like strangers in the same house and bed. It is very easy for an argument to happen over most anything. I will accept my part and have acknowledged this to my wife but does not help. I truthfully don't initiate an argument-would prefer to talk about differences without all the elements of an argument. I have worked with people all my career in an accounting office environment and do not have this issue with my colleagues.

I want my wife to see Andre Bocelli because it will mean so much to her. But I don't want the evening ruined by the potential of an argument happening, again, I will not start one and I will be very careful to keep my mouth shut. When she says something to initiate a response that is hard to resist, it will be hard for me. I think it would be more enjoyable for her to go with a friend instead of me. But she does not have any close friends she could ask. She is clearly not happy with me and I will accept this because I have tried during the 20 years and simply do meet her standards.

Any Andre Bocelli fans in Houston want a ticket?

 

[life101]

Before you go, do something for her you used to do when you two first fell in love. Just remind her of the old days. Good luck.

 

[67flh]

off topic,,why have you stayed in this miserable relationship so long?

 

[FromNeptune]

Why have I stayed in this relationship so long? First, I have a strong belief in the vows I said I would keep. Next, as much as my wife has hurt our relationship by her holding grudges, controlling and more, to my knowledge she has not committed adultery even though we haven't had sex in 15 years. I see no indication she has seen other men. We have only one car that I use every day to go to work. And lastly is she has no skills to work and support herself and I could not put her out on the street. However, if she wanted to leave and could show me she was going to be taken care of more than I have, then she can go.