Well as Anastasia6
going to sleep - nada
Mind got confused (I work from home 24 x 7) and days sometime meld together -
so on MONDAY March13 - she does "driver duty" to take "Kevin" to hospital for hernia surgery.
Leaves home 10 AM - 5:30 PM - "We're at Kevin's house"
No mention of considering to stay for observational reasons for the night (24 hours) and time marches on.
Earlier she said she would be home "in the afternoon."
Well - I couldn't sleep so called about 0200 - and did so multiple times till she answered.
I got a line of BS about "I told you the - (story)" via texts. I sent her the texts she sent to me which have
no mention of staying overnight.
So I get her on the phone about 0200 and she gives me the "what I wanted you to hear" story - not what she texted and/or said. I got pissed off (surprise?) and told to "enjoy sleeping on the couch" - ya? Right!?
I did not mean to say she "disappears for days at a time" - but when she travelled for work - she was incommunicado 99% of the time.
So I'm here with 4 cats (they like you even when your angry) and just annoyed that my life is in the sxxxxer.
No idea when she will be home "today" (Tuesday) and I'm trying to think of how not to blow up but I just can't think of why I should put up with her "doing as she pleases" without keeping me informed. After all, isn't taking care of your spouse part of marriage? AS in knowing they are safe wherever they are and what they are doing and/or subjected to?
I keep thinking of Grandmas teaching the "Golden Rule" - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
I have never travelled and NOT called her every evening and also posted some texts during the course of the day.
Just to let her know where/what I was doing at the time.
How do people not see that as the right thing to do with your spouse?
On the "affair angle" - think how many times you have read hear the WS is saying the OP is a dork/jerk/misfit/etc?
And turns out they are trading body fluids?
So it is with her comment on the person she is with tonight. I'm thinking "EA" at the least is blooming. Well, maybe more that is my concern.
I'm also battle injured as she has a physical affair middle 1990s. "We only kissed, a lot!" Ya, Right.
I got "the story" in the traditional trickle truth - or at least the parts she was willing to tell.
Apologies for wall of text - life can be messy.
Tuesday (after the lovely
engineering meetings) should be fun!
BTW, even though she is over 70, she still has a female presence that turns heads much younger.
If she "hit the market" looks alone would get her lots of bites. Me, not so much. But I still have a full head of hair!