Agreed. You only start to understand the reaction once you come to the understanding that these people think of their spouse like a thing for their edification not a human being with feelings and autonomy. As a means to an end, so when that "means to an end" suddenly goes away they are crying. It's like their house suddenly told them they could no longer live in it again. Or the money in their bank account. Someone took away her candy.The guy seems to be amazed at his cheating wife’s reaction. She is the epitome of someone in the fog.
Now that her fairytale world has come crashing down around her ears she’s completely dumbfounded. Reconciliation would be a complete waste of time at this stage, she is just sorry she got caught.
But in no way is she sorry for the pain she caused him. Understanding this is a big part of the reason why I am typically down on R. It's such a bad deal and not just because of the cheating but because of the way the cheater dehumanize the people who love them.