[ATC529R]

Thought I'd take a break from reading some of the dis-heartening threads and make one about my last few days, and hopefully it will bring some reason to some on here who question their marriage.

My wife flew out on business Sat morning and will be gone until Thursday. That leaves me with my 3 year old. We have had a wonderful two days, and my wife has enjoyed some quality time, mostly on the company dime. She has also been able to spend some time with a friend she grew up with, and my daughter and I went to a big carnival and played games and ....just in general have had an awesome weekend.

Wife misses me, We miss her and all is well in the world.

Sometimes we all just need a little break from each other and trying to change one another IMO.

 

[CandieGirl]

This is good; and reinforces my belief that when my husband leaves next year to work up North, it'll be good for us. I need to miss him. And vice versa!

 

[Deejo]

Now see?

All can be well in the world due to a smile from your child and an "I miss you." from the one you love.

Not as glamorous as a threesome thread, I'll grant you, but your post is absolutely perfect.

 

[Clark G]

These threads are what make marriage worth pursuing and working on. It also goes to show that just b/c you spend time apart due to a trip or other reasons doesn't mean your significant other or you for that matter is our running around.

Great post and as I venture forward in a relationship that has potential post divorce (3 years post so it's not too fresh) it gives me signs of hope that there are couples out there who make it work!

Thanks,

Joe
:smthumbup:

 

[ATC529R]

Now see?

All can be well in the world due to a smile from your child and an "I miss you." from the one you love.

Not as glamorous as a threesome thread, I'll grant you, but your post is absolutely perfect.

I keep that stuff tucked away to myself......way down deep in the brain.

made me LOL

 

[Holland]

Where I live the fastest growing section of the community are those in committed, monogamous relationships where the couple do not live together.

I am in one of these and am very happy. I need time apart, he does too. When we are together we use our time well, it is extremely bonding.

 

[SimplyAmorous]

Holland said: Where I live the fastest growing section of the community are those in committed, monogamous relationships where the couple do not live together.

I am in one of these and am very happy. I need time apart, he does too. When we are together we use our time well, it is extremely bonding.

Funny how couples are so different....Me & mine has never enjoyed time apart...sure we could endure it but oh how we missed each other, my husband even complains he can't sleep if I am not home.... .....I think the longest we've been separated in 23 yrs is a week -when he had Work training in another state. Glorious when he hits the door though!

We enjoy tripping over each other every day... it is very comforting..and bonding......Neither of us would ever say... we needed a break & it was good for us .

Even when we fight, we can't leave each other alone... and we like it that way!! He gets the biggest charge out of me, cause I might get really MAD/ steaming and slam the door in a huff, trying to stay away from him... but I can't do it... I might last an hour if I am lucky....& I end up crawling back to him - telling him how pathetic I am that I can't stay away. He always cracks and big & we make up.

I guess some might call us the "clingy" type - though we don't see it as unhealthy.... just living as we enjoy.

 

[Ikaika]

Funny how couples are so different....Me & mine has never enjoyed time apart...sure we could endure it but oh how we missed each other, my husband even complains he can't sleep if I am not home....

Totally agree with you SA, on this one. The night hours are never good if we are not together. I did some research fellowships in the past to St. Louis and San Antonio... and while I enjoyed those places when not stuck in the lab or meetings. Trying to sleep alone in an hotel room was very hard. Always had to call to talk so I could feel relaxed enough to sleep.

 

[Cosmos]

It's good to read something happy for change! Thanks for posting this, OP

 

[oldgeezer]

Glad to read it.

I recall when I was young, that my dad returning home from being away for a while was always coupled with disruption, antagonism and often anger and fear.

He was never neutral... Life was always about him driving something, always, incessantly, never a chance to just be quiet and peaceful.

 

[Holland]

Funny how couples are so different....Me & mine has never enjoyed time apart...sure we could endure it but oh how we missed each other, my husband even complains he can't sleep if I am not home.... .....I think the longest we've been separated in 23 yrs is a week -when he had Work training in another state. Glorious when he hits the door though!

We enjoy tripping over each other every day... it is very comforting..and bonding......Neither of us would ever say... we needed a break & it was good for us .

Even when we fight, we can't leave each other alone... and we like it that way!! He gets the biggest charge out of me, cause I might get really MAD/ steaming and slam the door in a huff, trying to stay away from him... but I can't do it... I might last an hour if I am lucky....& I end up crawling back to him - telling him how pathetic I am that I can't stay away. He always cracks and big & we make up.

I guess some might call us the "clingy" type - though we don't see it as unhealthy.... just living as we enjoy.

SA we are both out of LTR that ended in divorce, we each have children and busy lives. It is different second time round for me, I think in my marriage I should have had more time away from my ex, I am the sort of person that needs time alone.

Honestly I really enjoy our current lifestyle, maybe one day we will live together but neither of us are in any hurry to do so.

I would say that the time when we are together that we are indeed "clingy" very touchy feely which I love