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hey guys...this isnt an emergency post, more like how should i handle type thing..
so me and my husband married at 19. he is now 23 and i will be 23 in june. When we got married then my husband had a totally different mindset then, he was totally ready to be the man etc etc...now we are about 3 years into our marriage(married april 2010) and hes seems to start realizing what he wished he could have had...im guessin hes curious as to what it would be like to be able to live with mom a little longer, party, hang out all hours n not have to worry about wife at home..experiment(not with women even though that would come into the part of being young and not married), but just to be on his own etc..hopefully you guys know what i mean...now on to me..i grew up very sheltered, so when me and him got married i was completely ready and transformed into wife mode(lol), not a regret..not to mention he was my first real love, first EVERYTHING, literally first dinner date, movie date, first person i could ride in car with etc(like i said i was VERY sheltered).
Basically i just want to know how to handle this..i dont want to push him away wanting the man he made the decision 3 years to be, and now hes kinda wanting to "step down" for a bit..i do understand as you get older things change..desires change, but i dont feel like i should have to want those same desires in order for us to be equal..i want him to be the man he was ready to be then..now he jus wants to be young and not have a care..when in reality thats now gone...i just want thoughts is all...like i said nothing huge but i just need input! Thnx
so me and my husband married at 19. he is now 23 and i will be 23 in june. When we got married then my husband had a totally different mindset then, he was totally ready to be the man etc etc...now we are about 3 years into our marriage(married april 2010) and hes seems to start realizing what he wished he could have had...im guessin hes curious as to what it would be like to be able to live with mom a little longer, party, hang out all hours n not have to worry about wife at home..experiment(not with women even though that would come into the part of being young and not married), but just to be on his own etc..hopefully you guys know what i mean...now on to me..i grew up very sheltered, so when me and him got married i was completely ready and transformed into wife mode(lol), not a regret..not to mention he was my first real love, first EVERYTHING, literally first dinner date, movie date, first person i could ride in car with etc(like i said i was VERY sheltered).
Basically i just want to know how to handle this..i dont want to push him away wanting the man he made the decision 3 years to be, and now hes kinda wanting to "step down" for a bit..i do understand as you get older things change..desires change, but i dont feel like i should have to want those same desires in order for us to be equal..i want him to be the man he was ready to be then..now he jus wants to be young and not have a care..when in reality thats now gone...i just want thoughts is all...like i said nothing huge but i just need input! Thnx