I've been married for many years and have kids that are all still in school. My marriage has issues that touch several forum categories. I've lurked and read TAM for a while trying to sort out the state of my marriage. I have read many threads. I am reading NMMNG. It started with Googling "Why does my wife do X?" and "Why doesn't my wife do Y?". Those results led me to TAM and I have been reading ever since. My complete devotion to my wife has resulted in a life where I have lived essentially as her servant and I am now trying to change that dynamic. She understands my new POV, and is trying to adjust, but old habits die hard.