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#1 ·
what's wrong with me? 30ish year old male, constantly thinks about women, looks, etc... can't stop thinking about sex. have never cheated on my wife, but its all i think about now days, sex.... there must be something missing, wrong, etc... why would this happen. Ive even gotten to the point about discussing swinging but my wife is not interested.
 
#4 ·
yes i can control myself, that's why i have not done anything i would regret yet after being with the same person for 20+ years of my life. Yes, we have sex, and no i have not told her yet. I just feel im not romantically attracted to her as i was before, and im currently analyzing the situation to see where the root of the issue lies before i make any drastic decisions.
 
#3 ·
You might be a sex addict. If you look at the website #SLAA Online Group of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous - Home, you will find a list of questions that might help you identify yourself as one, or not. Only you can decide, but you have to be honest with yourself when you answer the questions. If you think are, or may be one, there is help. It's a sickness that has a cure. I personally am a Sex and Love Addict and early in my 12 step recovery program, and hopeful for the future, although I have a lot of very dark days.

I suggest you take this seriously, but nobody can do it for you. My problem is costing me a marriage, all my savings, what little self respect I had, and the depression could kill me, but what really hurts me is knowledge of the pain I have caused other people, namely my wife and daughter.

Good luck, and peace...
 
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i don't fit into the category of a sex addict, i don't have an addition to porn, do weird things, risk job or finances, etc... my issue is i just think that the female body is beautiful and i love it, and ive only been with one my whole life, and i just can't imagine going on my whole life that way. I think that really sums up my issue, short and sweet. and yes i know that a lot of people would consider this really bad and selfish.
 
#7 ·
Hi.

My husband goes to SLAA and SA meetings and swears by them. He has been going for a long time and has alot of recovery up.

Even though you do not identify as an addict at face value, I encourage you to keep an open mind and maybe check out a meeting some time. if it's not for you, then you lose nothing, but of you find help there, then you would miss out if you didn't try going.

Also, I really admire you for not acting on your obsession. I can imagine that it would wear you down at times.
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