i have been married for 4 years now to my best friend and over the past couple years i have felt like we are missing something in our marriage. We are great friends, take care of each other, but we lack that spark of being in love and that desire to always want to touch eachother etc....we have never had that and i figured it would come after being married. Now i find myself feeling extremely trapped in a marriage, not being fair to her or myself. I am scared i will stray and cheat someday trying to find what is missing in another relationship. We have talked about things, but seem to be on totally different levels. I dont think she feels that anything is missing. Maybe i am being a hopeless romantic, but i want that desire for my wife. I want to look at her and say to myself that she is so beautiful to me. Did we make a mistake by marrying to early. It was the safe thing to do, marry your best friend.